jon3105 Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Its been a week since the break up from my 2 year relationship, and 2 days since complete no contact. She'd been texting me saying things like "I just want you to know I miss you so much, this is so hard, but please don't text me back again". It left me a bit puzzled for a while as to why she was doing this, did she just want a response to show that I was still her radar? Eventually the penny dropped, some guy from her work had been texting her just before we broke up. They had been getting a little too close for comfort (spending days out shopping just the two of them, etc) and so in my eyes the writing was on the wall (partly due to our relationship going roughly, and I guess in part to my own insecurity). Anyway, I realised that shes probably hooked up with this guy straight after the breakup and feels guilty that im heartbroken about the end and she isnt, so these texts are a way of her relieving her guilt, that way in her mind she thinks I'm thinking shes suffering too. I text her, stupidly, to ask her about it, saying it would make it easier to just know from her and move on, as opposed to finding out from mutual friends, etc. She didnt text back at all (she normally would), and so I've taken it as she is. My friends have all aranged a night out next wednesday, including my brother and various other good mates. I'd probably enjoy it, and it'd do me good to go out and take my mind off it. The problem is its obviously a Wednesday night, so its just the one club open, the same club that she goes to each week with this group of guys. I'd like to say if I saw her with this new guy I'd bite my lip and ignore her, continueing to smile away with my friends to make it look like I wasnt bothered, but the truth is it'd crush me. Even though its likely to be true, it hasnt been confirmed to me, so theres always the possibility that its just in my head and makes things a tad easier to deal with. They're good friends, and I know they'll still be there for when I'm ready to properly go out again and to face her, but at the same time I dont want to put my social life down and turn away chances to get out and do things when given the chance to. As it stands it's still a week away, so assuming the next 8 days continue with no contact I'm going to see how I get on. Just looking for some advice and to see if anyone else has been in a similar situation.
Don Ho Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Bro, you are in no emotional shape to go to that club and chance running into her and her guy. I typically avoid the places I know my Ex goes even though she is with her GFs. You are not going to be able to stomach seeing her with another guy. There is NO good that will come out of it. You will feel really rotten after that. IMO, you should NOT go to that club. Pick a different night, different place or something.
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