The Email!

[LostInTurn]

This has been a lingering thought.

 

A couple weeks back, I had emailed one of my ex's friends (someone I was acquainted with as well to get their perspective) I never read the email. I was too afraid. It's been bothering me since.

 

A good friend of mine who's been by my side this entire time tells me I should just delete it and forget about it.

 

I wish one of you could read it for me. Thoughts?

[westrock]

I am not sure what you are saying. You sent your ex's friend an email? Or you received an email from your ex's friend?

 

If you received an email, then read it! It's not going to kill you.

[LostInTurn]

My ex isn't sensible. He gets frustrated very easily and shots down.

 

I emailed his friend. Someone I thought may listen. I received an email back.

 

I'm afraid if I read it, I'll feel worse. I imagine it saying 'you're an a**hole, go away' or something.

 

I kind of want to laugh at that, but I can't.

[HopeLove]

I'm confused too. Explain again this email story.

[LostInTurn]

I had emailed one of his friends (my acquaintance) in hopes someone would hear me because he doesn't handle stress. She emailed me back and I still have not read the email. It is sitting in my email. I think about the email everyday, but I cannot bring myself to read the damn thing.

[molimo140]

There are really only two options here -- delete it or read it.

 

Is the relationship done for good? Are you doing NC? If so, delete it. It might make you feel a little better, but odds are more likely that it's just going to make you feel worse. It's just like breaking NC.

 

It's pretty clear that even the mere fact that the message exists bothers you and that, to me, is an indication that you shouldn't read it.

 

Stop torturing yourself, delete it, and move on.

[HopeLove]

I coudn't not read it. I would read it right now.

[Lost Fish]

This is hilarious.

 

Just read it!!!! Stop being so childish!

 

I agree with HopeLove and would just read it.

 

Why the hell did you email the friend if you never intended on reading the reply?

 

People play such silly games with themselves.

[LostInTurn]

I know! I'm a damn fool.

[Lost Fish]

Stop posting here and go read it!

 

Then you can post what it says and we'll help you through it, lol.

[You Go Girl]

Whatever it says, it sure ain't no pretty wrapped Christmas present under the tree with your name on it.

So get it over quickly! Brace yourself for some pain, humiliation, embarassment. Expect the worst so that it can only be better than that.

 

But don't save it like some frickin' Christmas present, because it sure aint that.

[HopeLove]

So, have you read it? As I told you yestarday almost everyone tells you to move on and you didn't die because of that so you are not going to die if this friend says they same in the email and anyway the worse already happend and was the breakup, so don't worry too much, read it and if you want share it with us.

[LostInTurn]

She basically said:

 

That I need to respect his decision right now. If I see any chance of it working to give him space and let it be. That's the only things that would help.

[HopeLove]

So not so bad, right? and nothing new.

[LostInTurn]

Not so bad, no. And correct, nothing new. All stuff I knew.