mikezombie777 Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 So I broke up with my ex a few months ago and a few weeks ago I started seeing a certain someone. We clicked, we got on. We had sex a few times. It wasn't a relationship yet, but this week she suddenly stopped talking to me. No txts, IMs or FB messages. I saw that she was talking to other people on FB, but wouldn't respond to me. She suddenly stopped showing up on my MSN contacts. I never smothered her, I barely txt'd her and we talked on MSN sometimes. She said she liked me without me having to fish for it, and she also said the sex was amazing. I never said that I was overly into her or anything. Today, I came to the conclusion she used me. The gutless bitch won't even tell me. I tried not to fall for her, but I did and now I'm hurt once again. She seemed like such a nice, well rounded person. I trusted her and thought the best. What the hell did I do to deserve this???? I was nothing but open and honest with her.
commonlife Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 I was nothing but open and honest with her. First mistake, never open up so quickely to someone. Always keep some in reserve. I learned this the hard way. I gave all I had to my ex in a matter of days, she dumped me like a peace of ****. Now i am dating this new girl and guess what, fort knox is around me. I open up gradually. You learn to know the person gradually and same for here. Protect yourself at all time my friend. You are the most valuable item in the relationship... Now I am not telling you to be a jerk but go slooooooowwwwllllyyyyyy
Author mikezombie777 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Thanks guys for the posts guys. What I meant by open and honest, was that I never lied to her or had any ill intentions. I didn't pour my heart out or anything. We had agreed we were dating and it WASN'T just a casual fling. I just don't understand why people lack the guts to be upfront. I would rather be told I'm not liked than get stringed along. It's very hurtful and I don't deserve it, especially when I have the best intentions. **** her.
carhill Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 What the hell did I do to deserve this???? I was nothing but open and honest with her.Sounds like you had some mutual good times. It's a function of being human. That's about all you did; being human. A good concept to ponder is that, in life, you will meet humans who view interpersonal relationships and interactions differently than you do. They look at communication different, affection different, and sex different. If you *accept* that when in the dynamic, you will find the results of those differences less painful and stressful. This happens in committed relationships and marriages too. There are no guarantees in life. Give what you choose freely; own your expectations; accept the results; stay or go as healthy for you. Good luck I've been 'used' plenty, as has nearly everyone in this room, so you've got a lot of company. My sympathies.
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