Omar Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 So ive made a couple threads about my ex breaking it off with me...ill provide some brief cliffs - She broke it off in May...i told her ok we'll see where things go.....a few days later she calls me to meet, we hang out and from then on she calls everyday thereafter...things go back to normal, sex etc. - A little over 2 weeks ago on a Saturday night, im drunk at a bar and she comes by and we start talking. I bring up our relationship and she says we arent together (despite spending the whole summer together) I get mad at her inconsistancy in behavior and she says "maybe we shouldnt talk anymore" - I inicidiate NC and we dont speak for a week....the next week (a week ago today) she calls and tries to set up a dinner...i tell her im busy....she calls me EVERYDAY of the week, im busy most of the time. She calls several times somedays, wanting to go out, meet up, etc, i refuse - Last night she calls me and asks where i am...i told her im out by the park playing basketball with some friends and she asks me if its cool if she comes by....i say sure....she comes by and we spend a couple hours alone together....nothing romantic happens, just walking around, sitting, talking.....i play it cool and she goes home, calls me when she gets home and asks about my work scheduale...i tell her and havent heard from her since then (last night) wtf is going on here? usually in the past where i broke it off with a girl or she broke it off with me, no contact MEANT no contact....maximum there would be is a brief phone conversation after a month or two...i havent iniciated contact with her once since the official split a couple weeks ago and shes been calling me like crazy now ive been wih her for just over 3 years and we had a good relationship up until a couple months ago so i DO want to work things out and get back together but im not sure about her motives? im just gonna play it cool and let her keep reaching out to me but id appreciate any input on why she keeps callig/wanting to hang out/know where i am all the time and how i should handle working things out with her
westrock Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 im not sure about her motives? im just gonna play it cool and let her keep reaching out to me Yes, let her reach out to you, but next time she calls ask her about her motives. We can't read her mind and neither can you. Say to her "I am confused. You said before that we were no longer together. Have you changed your mind?"
Author Omar Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Yes, let her reach out to you, but next time she calls ask her about her motives. We can't read her mind and neither can you. Say to her "I am confused. You said before that we were no longer together. Have you changed your mind?" not sure if thats a good approach with her....shes a typical textbook emotional woman who says one thing and does another.....i know if i bring up the relationship shes going to "stay strong" and push me further away
westrock Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Then you need to decide if you are willing to accept her behavior or not. If yes, then carry on. If not, then speak up next time she contacts you. It is perfectly reasonable and fair for you to want to know what are her motives. With the way she acts, either she is in a relationship with you or you move on. She can't have her cake and eat it too (unless you let her).
ShannonMI Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Omg this girl is STILL messing with you??? She's relentless. I commented on another thread of yours a few weeks ago. I would def. ask her what her motives are and to stop jerking you around once and for all. WHAT DO YOU WANT GIRL? is what you need to ask her. Or just stop having contact with her. If she asks to watch you play basketball, tell her you'd rather she didn't. This is ridiculous. She wants to know she still has her hooks in you with all this BS. I think those are her true motives. You deserve to be done with all this sh*t. Shes messing with you big time. It is all or nothing and that is what she needs to understand. If she isn't willing to give you "all" then tell her goodbye and to stop calling you. BE STRONG!!
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