JustinBanyard Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 (edited) Heyy, I am new to this forum and as far as I've read, it's not filled with people who will just flame (spam) with junk and actually try to answer my questions. Well, I am 15 (week till 16 ) and I have only ever had one relationship, which I am still in, we've been going out for almost 6 months (4 days from now makes 6 months) and I don't want to be in the relationship anymore I just don't feel the way I did when we first started, I have felt this way for about a month maybe less, It may not be a LONG relationship as some of you may have, but this is my first and I'm 15. Basically, I just feel different from the start, she's in TEE (Advanced Schooling, to get into university) and she's ALWAYS busy, I have left school and working full time (Monday - Friday) and get the weekend off, I want to spend it with her, but she's busy, Saturday she has work (Doesn't bother me much, except she never wants to talk after because she's worn out) which starts at 9 (I get up at 11) and finishes about 6:30. I will admit, since this is my first relationship, I personally think I am a little clingy but I can't compaire it to anything, and then theres Sunday, She has church from 9ish to 12ish, then has to go home and do homework. So I never get to see her! and I'm not going to wait 4-5 years for her to finish school then University just to be able to see her, I need someone I can be around more often and have fun with. I personally don't mind her being Catholic and me being an Atheist. That doesn't collide much, but she keeps trying to get me to go to church, and even after I tell her no because I find it boring and don't think that (No offense is ment) listening to an old man talk about something I don't believe in. (That's how I see it) I may get things like, "you're only 16" but that's why I'm here, getting help from people who have experienced it, or are just familiar with it. I just want to know how do you break up with someone, Just before an anniversary (kind of thing) I am a really nice guy, and I HATE hurting people, I can't stand seeing her cry. It feels terrible, and me causing it would be even worse. The whole time we've been going out, we have NEVER had an argument. I just don't know what to do, Sorry if this is all mixed up and a lot of writing, just a little confused at the moment :/ EDIT: Don't worry about it, Problem solved...kinda, She broke up with me today :/ Edited August 24, 2010 by JustinBanyard Update:
Don Ho Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Bro, I'm not going to say "you're just 16". We have ALL been your age and through it. Well, you can always send her ONE last text that says "I agree that you breaking up with me was the right thing to do. It does hurt and I will miss you, but it's for the best. I was frustrated that we could not spend more time together. Anyway, take care and I wish you the best". THAT'S ALL bro, word for word. Do not say or send anything else and you don't have to even send that. Move on and do no contact, it will be best for you. And PLEASE do not go to her and cry and profess your love, MEN do not do that and you have to respect yourself.
Author JustinBanyard Posted August 25, 2010 Author Posted August 25, 2010 Yeah, I'm not even going to send that, I'm just completely blocking all communication. I'm just going to forget about her and move on. Thanks for replying though.
Don Ho Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Good for you bro. Hard to believe you're 16. You're miles and miles ahead of the other guys. Good luck.
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