How can you tell she's cheating?

[catersi]

I want some advice on this guys tnx

[mountainbike]

Well....that is kind of a broad question. You know her right? Is she doing something really odd? Are things kind of not adding up? It really depends. If a girl is, she may be very smart about it or not so smart. Whats going on?

[catersi]

I want to know what the general signs are so i know what to look for, i am not looking because im not trying to find out, i just want to know the signs, my girlfriend is hot, and she works with alot of guys on a dayly basisi, i am not insecure or jealous, and have never showed it either.

[alphamale]

if you feel another mans spunk inside her she's probably fooling around

[Gironbachs]

I don't know what kind of advice you think you're gonna get with so little info.

 

I don't know how old you are, I'm guessing you're a child.. but remember this:

 

If you're in a committed relationship with a woman and you really love her, you must always trust her implicitly - until she gives you a reason not to. You sound like a jealous insecure kid.

 

good luck.

[catersi]

well im not a kid, im 25, and i am not insecure at all, i am simply asking what some signs would be. I know its broad, but i just want to pick some brains out with for their knowledge and experience, i dont want specific info, just general ideas

[Chi townD]

Ummm... okay. Ummm... Becomes distant, makes excuses not to see you. Starts pointing out problems in the relationship. Guards her phone with every inch of her life.

 

This is kind of hard not having any background here.....

[Nappeal]

if you feel another mans spunk inside her she's probably fooling around

 

Lol, grossss...

 

Not available for you. Very secretive. Explaining stories that make no sense. Not comin around you very often. Anytime you feel something's amiss, you're probably right.

[skydiveaddict]

I want some advice on this guys tnx

 

It's been my experience that your gut instinct is usually right. Not sayin that it is in your case, but something is making you uncomrtable. I would not disregard it.

 

For instance last year when I got home I could instantly feel that something was wrong. and I was right. Good luck to you

[commonlife]

I agree on the finding excuses not to see you, keeping her phone pinned to her, then there is less sexe of course, looking more sexy going out without you than with you (if you ever go out together now), hiding to speak on the phone or short confused conversations... and so one

[Chi townD]

Having sexy undergarments you've never seen before.

[Don Ho]

Catersi, here's the bigger issue: you and how your confidence is beginning to weaken. You say she's really HOT. Cool. You should be proud of that and confident that you have her and confident with yourself. But what happens is that a guy starts a relationship strong and confident. That's what attracts a woman in the first place. Then, as time goes on you begin getting a little more possessive, a little more jealous, a little less secure and start to lose your confidence. It gets to a point where you become a pussy and NOT the MAN she was attracted to. THAT is why a woman cheats (aside from the fact that some are just unethical, lying cheaters). So bro, you must be very careful not to let your confidence begin to crack and make sure you don't start down that road to becoming a pussy. Keep in mind, she is not the ONLY hot woman you will ever date or meet. Your attitude should be "I'm a confident MAN, I have her and if she wants to go with someone else, so be it. I will find another hot one". That is how a MAN handles it. Easy to say, hard to do, but that's it.

[hopesndreams]

I want some advice on this guys tnx

 

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.

 

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

 

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

 

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

 

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

 

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

 

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

 

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

 

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

 

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

 

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

 

12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.

 

13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"

 

14) He buys himself new underwear.

 

15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

 

16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.

 

17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.

 

18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.

 

19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

 

20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.

 

21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.

 

22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.

 

23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

 

24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.

 

25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.

 

26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.

 

27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.

 

28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.

 

29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.

 

30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.

 

31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.

 

32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.

 

33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.

 

34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger.

 

35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.

 

36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.

 

37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.

 

38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.

 

39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.

 

40) She has a "glow" about her.

 

41) Atypical erratic behavior.

 

42) He sneaks out of the house.

 

43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed

 

44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.

 

45) He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.

 

46) The telltale signs of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.

 

That about covers it.

[Lost Fish]

I agree 100% with Don Ho.

 

The fact that nothing is even wrong but you are here on a website where people post about breaking-up asking questions about cheating shows a lot about your own self-worth and level of confidence.

 

If you are worrying this early in the relationship then you need to take a good look at your self-confidence dude.

 

Start doing things that make YOU feel happy outside of the relationship, otherwise you are bound to slip into an insecure little boy who will definitely lose her as women rapidly lose interest in guys when they show weakness.

 

Own the fact that YOU are her boyfriend. You have to carry the attitude of "I am awesome" all the time. Not "OMG, how can I tell if she's gonna leave me, because I'm definitely not good enough for her and it's only a matter of time..."