smk Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 So just when I think that things are starting to get better, it seems my subconscious doesn't want me to move on... I posted this afternoon about how great I was doing and feeling and then all of a sudden I can stop thinking of her, thinking of how much I miss her and how much I wish I could be with her right now.... GD I hate these ****ing stupid moments... I know it's a temporary lapse but this is now just absolutely ****ing ridiculous. It's been 10 weeks, and I have had some seriously hot women text me all day long yet instead of them all I am thinking about is her. Anyways that's my mini rant - haven't had one in a while so I guess it was long due...
bboy Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Haha, you're moving out of your comfort zone! This is actually great news! Threading into new waters. If you're change work place, you'll have the same feelings. Second thoughts about what you're doing. Date the hot women or "keep yourself for your ex". The only thing for sure is that your happiness is a result of what you're doing now and what you will continue doing for the coming days, months, decades... I bet your relapses are returning slower and slooower and sloooooower...... But you didn't expect them to just vanish, did you? Next time they come - be a little bit prepared.. Flirt with someone, or just go outside running, or look at people or whatever. Don't let it slap you in the face and say you knew it was coming but didn't dodge.. Hang in there!
Lost Fish Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Dude, why don't you call one of those 4 hot women who's numbers you now have from your other post... lol. But seriously, when I find myself slipping I alter my thought from "I miss her" to "I want to be happy." Then I get off my ass and do something good for me. A huge part of it for me is staying AWAY from the computer and even LoveShack for extended periods.
Author smk Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Bboy oh yeah the relapses are much slower now first one in almost a week, so pretty damn good there, I think it might also have something to do with the fact that since Wednesday last week through till last night I had been out a lot.. Yeah I know what you mean about the comfort zone, I am coming out of it, and pushing te boundaries further each time and it's awesome... I know that the feelings I have for her will be around for a while and it doesn't bother me anymore, I just don't like these little lapses... Instead I am focussing my energy on posting here and getting those feelings out, that way I don't suppress them... bTW you have some awesome posts - good stuff...
lullaby Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 So just when I think that things are starting to get better, it seems my subconscious doesn't want me to move on... I posted this afternoon about how great I was doing and feeling and then all of a sudden I can stop thinking of her, thinking of how much I miss her and how much I wish I could be with her right now.... GD I hate these ****ing stupid moments... I know it's a temporary lapse but this is now just absolutely ****ing ridiculous. It's been 10 weeks, and I have had some seriously hot women text me all day long yet instead of them all I am thinking about is her. Anyways that's my mini rant - haven't had one in a while so I guess it was long due... hi Smk! I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Look at the bold part, did you see what you wrote? maybe your mind is playing tricks on you. You know it's just a lapse, a moment. They will come less and less, you can bet on it. Read how well you were doing last week. Just let this ugly moment pass and it will be just fine. It's been 5 months since my break up and sometimes it still hurts like hell, even if I have LC with him, it's still not the same and I'm still all alone, right? Be strong my friend!
Author smk Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Fish - I have 2 of them on text as we speak and just planned to meet them at the weekend so working up an "appetite" there.... But I know what you mean, for me getting my feelings out and posting here on LS let's me just get rid of the feelings and hence I think about it less...
bboy Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Bboy oh yeah the relapses are much slower now first one in almost a week, so pretty damn good there, I think it might also have something to do with the fact that since Wednesday last week through till last night I had been out a lot.. Yeah I know what you mean about the comfort zone, I am coming out of it, and pushing te boundaries further each time and it's awesome... I know that the feelings I have for her will be around for a while and it doesn't bother me anymore, I just don't like these little lapses... Instead I am focussing my energy on posting here and getting those feelings out, that way I don't suppress them... bTW you have some awesome posts - good stuff... Thanks! That made ME feel well.
PegNosePete Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 smk you're doing really well! These things will happen, and you know they are only temporary. At first you thought of her 24/7, then a little bit less, then even less, and now only once a week. Next it will be once a month, then once a year, and then... not at all. Well you will still think of her of course, but it will just be a memory (hopefully a happy one), not a longing/pining. Me, I am just moving out of the 24/7 phase, my D-day was one month yesterday so I went to Hyde Park to chat with some friends. I've got it down to maybe 20/7 so I am making some progress! I can't wait for when I have it down to your level
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