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[ragegnst]

We have tried to end it many times before still not sure why it is so hard this time. Also am sure that if nothing happened we would be carrying on exactly the same

Edited August 24, 2010 by ragegnst

[Fieldsofgold]

We have tried to end it many times before still not sure why it is so hard this time. Also am sure that if nothing happened we would be carrying on exactly the same

 

I feel for you, I really do.

 

I think it is highly unlikely that she has any intentions of leaving the bf at all. I also think she is treating you with a great deal of disrespect.

 

I think FA made a very good point - you really do know very little about this woman.

 

I have watched a similar situation first-hand. My xBF sent me an e-mail every day for months, promised me he loved only me, "soon" he would have all the loose ends tied up, and would be only mine. Last I heard, he was still with his gf.

 

I know it hurts to leave, but it also hurts to stay. The difference is, if you leave, the pain will gradually lessen. If you stay, the pain will only get worse, the situation more complicated.

[ragegnst]

very valid points and I appreciate everyone's support, we have not been talking a lot so I guess it is getting easier. I am not sure if NC would be best, we never really talk about "us". I do know that I did now want to go through another holiday season like this ,which was one reason why I tried to force her hand. I have had relationships end before and new this feeling was coming, it just sucks

[ragegnst]

actually I do no quite a bit about here except what goes on in her mind!

[Fieldsofgold]

actually I do no quite a bit about here except what goes on in her mind!

 

. . . the thing we'd ALL most like to know! You are not alone in that.

[ragegnst]

Well she is gone for a few days on a trip so there will not be any convo, will see what happens when she gets back I guess.

[Fieldsofgold]

Well she is gone for a few days on a trip so there will not be any convo, will see what happens when she gets back I guess.

 

Keep reading, keep posting, and keep us updated!

 

I have found just reading other posts here helped a lot, and there are plenty here to read.

 

Take care!

[ragegnst]

thanks, been reading a lot, yet to finds one like my mess but I keep looking!

[ragegnst]

so she texts me says she is trying to not to think about me but it is really difficult, and starts talking about memories of things we did together

 

ughhh!

[Owl]

No reason to expect her to act any differently until YOU force a change in the situation, my friend.

[ragegnst]

yea it is just not working so well:confused:

[Darren Steez]

WTF! Honestly dude what are you doing? This woman is well practised at lying and deceiving the both of you..except you know about her boyfriend, whilst her boyfriend is blissfully unaware that you exist, she's got her lives so well separated you don't even know what the other dude looks like? What is it? You don't think you can find a women better than her? Do you really want a future with a woman who's so well practised in deceit and cheating? So what if she leaves this dude and commits to you, guaran-damn-teed the minute she starts staying out late and missing phone calls you too will start questioning what she's up to. She's never going to leave him, unless something catastrophic happens then you my friend the safety net will be there, but until then she's a cat that's got the cream, two lovers, one's compliant, the other oblivious why would she change that! How do you feel at night when you sleep alone and she's probably screwing him, nine times out of ten, when she's with you probably acting the same way..how did you put it intense!! lol