csman1411 Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Well it was the last night before school starts so me and all my friends went out last night. To be honest I didnt really want to at the time but Im glad I did. We had a great time and ended up going back with a girl to stay the night. I didnt even care about sex and didnt pursure but it was really nice to be able to cuddle up to someone and not have to sleep alone. Last night really got me thinking about a couple things though... 1) Its nice to hear an outsiders view on the relationship. Apparently my ex hasnt exactly made it known to our mutual friends of what shes done but after it got around, I cant tell you how many people came to me and just told me I was so much better than that. They told me how respectful I was for her and one day I will get it in return. LOL I also didnt realize how many girls just never approached me because they realized how respectful and faithful I was to my GF. It just felt really good for a handful of people to tell me that I'm a good guy but just got caught up with the wrong girl. I think an outsiders opinion that truly knows the situation can really give you one of the purest outtakes on the entire situation. 2) I also realized last night that when you go through a break up. You honestly dont go through it alone. Almost every single one of my close friends know I'm upset about the whole situation and probably think about me once or twice a day and just think...Damn I hope he starts feeling better about himself. It just hit me last night that I dont want to put myself through all of this again but also...I'd hate to because all the advice LC has given me, I would hate for my friends to see me like this, and I wouldnt want to put my family through this again. I feel like I would be disrespecting all of those things if I were to give her another chance (if she evens asks) Anyways Day 10 NC, its pretty early and I guess I feel content. She is still on my mind alot and I still care for her tons. I realize now though that I dont want this burden anymore but I dont want anybody else to have to carry this burden again with me. I not only owe it to myself, but to all of you guys and all of friends and family to at least give it my all to get over this situation.
LostInTurn Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Anyways Day 10 NC, its pretty early and I guess I feel content. She is still on my mind alot and I still care for her tons. I realize now though that I dont want this burden anymore but I dont want anybody else to have to carry this burden again with me. I not only owe it to myself, but to all of you guys and all of friends and family to at least give it my all to get over this situation. You're strong to be at day 10 of NC. I'm on day .5. I keep breaking it! As far as the other thing. Your family, friends and extended LS family care about you immensely. They will never turn their back on you, they will never get sick of hearing you say the same thing on million times. That is why they are friends, family and LS. Because they care about you and your heart. Hopefully none of us do go through this again. Hopefully this is it and our next relationships are keepers. I know we're all keepers, question is... will the next be good enough for us?
Author csman1411 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 well its been all day and its finally night and today has been rough to say the least. I dont know how to get her outta my head or even stop caring for her. First day of classes tomorrow and I dont even wanna go...really wish I could just go to school on the opposite side of the state right now. Day 10...first day without drinking in about four...and its probably been the worst day yet. Hoping I can get into a routine and let these next couple months fly by. I honestly feel like a living man with nothing inside right now but confusion and doubt
LostInTurn Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Well, unfortunately you have to go to school. As for how you feel. The emptiness will fill. School could be a good thing. Keep your mind busy. You can't just stop caring for someone. As days go by, you'll feel better. As for the confusion and doubt. That too shall pass. You will feel better. Good luck at school.
Author csman1411 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 appreciate it man, i think trying to be with girls right now just makes it worse for me...hopefully school will be good, had to take last semester off cuz of the ****...finally was over it and then let her back in for the whole summer until she sat me back to square one two weeks before fall semester...good thing i at least have some decent friends
BiAxident Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 This would be a fine thing to discuss.. in the chatroom! http://tinychat.com/myrelationship
skydiveaddict Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 (edited) or this.................... Edited August 24, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Author csman1411 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Day 11: Pretty crappy to be honest, I really feel like this whole first month is gonna be horrible. I guess because we all have this feeling that they will contact us again. Im trying my best to get into some sort of schedule though of going to classes, then gym so im always occupied then drained at night to go to bed. Does anyone else have such a hard problem getting them out of your head? I feel like these 11 days which included a 3 day vacation, there might have been 5 hours added up total to which she wasnt on my mind
Author csman1411 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 oh yea and about... Facebook: I have come to the conclusion that the only real reason I get on it is to check and see if my ex has messaged me, this is the way she tried to talk to me last time she ended things. Im gonna try my best to stay off of it for the rest of this week...
Dad_of_2_great_boys Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Thanks for the chat room link . I'll be back. CSMAN I also realized last night that when you go through a break up. You honestly dont go through it alone. Almost every single one of my close friends know I'm upset about the whole situation and probably think about me once or twice a day and just think...Damn I hope he starts feeling better about himself. This is good to have support
Author csman1411 Posted August 25, 2010 Author Posted August 25, 2010 day 12: Got up went to class, then went to the gym...shes been on my mind all day, not that great. Going out for my buddys birthday tonight. Pretty surprised she hasnt tried to contact me yet but i guess she is still on an emotional high with her friends. Still not gonna contact her but wish I could tell her how I feel. One day at a time I guess!
Sambo Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Wow Great attitude keep up the good work and keep reminding yourself It's her loss. Your doing great and in a few more months you will be awesome.
Author csman1411 Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 just broke nc kinda....called her and sent her a fb message it 4:30 and im drunk, probably dumb but if she doesnt respont this time at least i know that i was right!! lol **** my life
BiAxident Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Was wondering what became of you. You told me to remind you that you had more fun tonight with "the boys" than you ever had with her!
Author csman1411 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 well its been two weeks since I have posted, I have been lurking some days but really just trying to get on with my life. about two weeks ago I broke NC after two weeks of NC. She basically said she had no remorse for what happened and that we didnt need to be enemies but shouldnt be friends either which was fine with me. Well now two weeks later, she sends me an email this past friday that said "Just wanted to let you know that Polo (our dog we got together that she took when the relationship ended) is sick and is jealous you got a new puppy." I havent responded and even though I do want another chance with her cuz I feel like she broke up with me cuz she was scared and stressed and the embarrassment i gave her that night. How should I react to this email as its not sunday so I have not responded for two days
bighearted Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 You've been doing good man. Don't take a step backwards and contact her again. And definitely don't start your pain and healing all over again and be led on by her message, only to be crushed again. Keep No-Contact man.
Thorgs Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Tell her to bring Polo over to meet the new puppy, only if you're strong enough to see her. If not, then just ignore it.
whatadeer26 Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Puppies are chick magnets! Instead of messaging her take your puppy to a park for a walk.
leal10 Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 hi.my opinion is that you shouldn't reply to her...stick to the NC...you musn't be available whenever she wants to contact you...wait until she makes some bigger step...just my opinion...
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