lala82 Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Hello everyone: I have wrote here in this forum a couple of occasions. Yesterday, I finish my relationship of 3.5 years. We met, while I was studying in Europe. We lived together one year. Then, in January he moved to The Middle East and two months later I back to South America. He came here this summer and he met my family. He told me that he was thinking to propose me. After he left the relationship was ok. He used to called me a lot and send me a lot of emails. Three weeks ago he told me that he was not sure of marry me, because we used to had arguments when we were together in Europe. So, I told him that it was better to do not be in touch anymore. A week later, he sent me a couple of emails I replied them quite cold but not rude. Last week was the same, so I told him that I was very sad about our situation. Finally yesterday we spoke. He told me that it was better to move on, that the distance made things difficult between us. He started to blame me about many things. He told me that he felt free and he was enjoying his time with his new friends and drinking a lot. Then, he told me that I will be always his dear. That he was upset because I was sad. He told me that he loves and miss me in deep, but now it was not the time. I told him that it was only excuses. He says that not, but that he wants to speak with me soon again. And, when he finished his contract in The Middle East, and if both of us were single he was thinking to come to my country to learn Spanish and be together again. I told him that I will not wait 2 years for him, when he is not bf. Anyway, after that he sent me two romantic emails. After that, I blocked him from my facebook, msn and skype. I think that is better to do not have contact with him. I do not hate him, but I do not know if blocked him it was quite childish or it was the best. Also, I do not want that he knows that I am planning back to Europe soon. I do not want that he thinks that I back to be near him. I am back for my career and myself. I would really appreciate any advice
aerogurl87 Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 You did the right thing. If he can't commit now to you, don't wait for him. It's one thing waiting for someone while being in a LDR, quite another to just be strung along for 2 years. I went through the same thing with my ex and happily moved finally about one year after him and I first met. And trust me it was for the best, so good luck to you in everything and stay strong.
Author lala82 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Hello: Thanks for your comment. However, after we split up 2 days ago and delate him from facebook, skype and msn. He sent me another e-mail today. He wrote to say thanks because before we split up I gave to him the details of someone to clean the flat, where we used to live. Also, he told me that he has noticed that I deleted him from my facebook and that he was very sad for that. He apologized because he knew that he hurt me; and that he wish that the circunstances between us would be different. Then, he told me that he expected that I had read the emails that he sent me the day that we split up. I read all of them, but I did not reply. Finally, he told me that he will never forget me and kisses. I did not reply this email either. I do not understand why he continue to send me emails after he split up? He decided to end things between us and I think that he does not deserve that I reply any of them... Any advice?
Clemenza Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 I do not understand why he continue to send me emails after he split up? He decided to end things between us and I think that he does not deserve that I reply any of them... Any advice? It might be because he's trying to make himself feel better/clear his conscience. I don't think you owe him anything. I'm sorry you're going through this.
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