PlumPudding Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Okay, so don't get me wrong. I really, REALLY want to marry in the future. I've only had one boyfriend; we broke up a couple months ago. And yes, I'm 20, and have only had 1 boyfriend. Not because no one was interested, but because I wasn't interested! I don't get my problem! I'm hardly ever attracted to someone, and personality-wise is even rarer!! I wish I hadn't made all the mistakes I did make with my ex, because I actually felt I could love him and I could see a future. I mean, now we're still sort of friends, and I talked with him a lot tonight; I don't even like who he's become so it's not like I want to get back together. But I'm totally straight, though, if you might suggest that that's the reason. I just don't know what my deal is. It takes me a long time to feel something for someone, and most of the time, I don't find many people attractive (personality or looks). I feel like I'll never get married. My ex's memory (who he used to be before 3 months prior to the breakup) is the exact person I want to spend my life with. But I don't think I can find anyone else who will be the same way. Now I am not stuck up or anything, but it's like, I know people will like me, but I don't think I can really like anyone back. All the guys seem weird, two-faced. They act a certain way around you but really feel differently. Or they are a lovely person to you and then they change into someone with no hopes or dreams. Sorry, this is just a rant. I'm at a real low tonight . . .
witabix Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Sorry, this is just a rant. I'm at a real low tonight . . . Oh Plum......stop it. You are 20 years old. Why sweat about marriage at your age. Of course men are two faced around your age. They are two faced at any age, so are women. Let them be as two faced as they want to be. You just do a swallow dive into life and enjoy yourself. Please don't panic just yet about marriage and the long haul into a wooden overcoat.
Author PlumPudding Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Oh Plum......stop it. You are 20 years old. Why sweat about marriage at your age. Of course men are two faced around your age. They are two faced at any age, so are women. Let them be as two faced as they want to be. You just do a swallow dive into life and enjoy yourself. Please don't panic just yet about marriage and the long haul into a wooden overcoat. Haha thanks. I guess the reason why I'm all worried about it right now is because the breakup happened because my EX was all worried about marriage and the future, and then everyone around me seems suddenly to be getting married and I feel like something is wrong! I guess the whole two-faced is because someone can be so passionate and happy about something to turn it around and become bitter. Think of everything as being "work" and nothing as fun and passion and love. It saddens me to hear that. It's a real downer. Silly, yes, but still.
ShadowBlue Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Try being 30 and never having a relationship when everyone around you is getting married or has had several marriages already. Sometimes I think it's best that I just hide the rest of my life.
Author PlumPudding Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Try being 30 and never having a relationship when everyone around you is getting married or has had several marriages already. Sometimes I think it's best that I just hide the rest of my life. Well don't do that!!
Disillusioned Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 The idea of getting married used to appeal to me, until I thought it over and it looks like singlehood is a win-win for women but a lose-lose for men. Singlehood lets women be as boastfully independent as they like, without some man to pester them for sex. We're looking at a future where women will fight epic power battles with each other to control this and that, while men will be serfs who go overseas to find women without attitudes... or like me, they'll buy Realdolls, Aikos, or whatever realistic gynoids become available.
hotpink2108 Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 I was 22 when I married my husband..at the age of 20 I thought it was the end of the world that I wasn't married. I finally gave up on love....I started to do things that I liked to do..I went to school, I had a great job then out of nowhere my husband showed up. We started talking and I told him that I'm not interested in nothing but a f**** buddy....Months later we did marry...but my point is don't rush love...don't rush around trying to get married. Enjoy being single and enjoy life!
shawnc Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 You are so young, you have your whole life ahead of you! Take it easy, enjoy life, you'll never get these years back. Work on yourself, go to school, travel, have fun. You shouldn't be looking at settling down till your are 30 at the least! Shawn
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