marianac Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Hey there! So, I've been in a LDR for 8 months and 2 weeks ago my boyfriend supposedly went to the beach with one of his friends, he said he couldn't talk much with me during the day & i really didn't understood why... Here is the conversation: Me: Tomorrow I'm going to the beach with laura Him: Oh...I never went to the beach with my friends... Me: Can't you remember that day you went with john to the beach? Him: Uh??? What are you talking about? I never went to the beach with him Me: Yes, you did! You went to the beach with john.... Him: No, I didn't.... (few seconds later) Him: Oh!!! Yes, I did!!! Me: Wait....you didn't...tell me the truth, what did you do that day? And after this question he started laughing... I can almost BET he is lying to me! So...I broke up with him, but now i'm feeling a little bit guilty...what if he wasn't lying...? What should I do?
impz Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Hey there! So, I've been in a LDR for 8 months and 2 weeks ago my boyfriend supposedly went to the beach with one of his friends, he said he couldn't talk much with me during the day & i really didn't understood why... Here is the conversation: Me: Tomorrow I'm going to the beach with laura Him: Oh...I never went to the beach with my friends... Me: Can't you remember that day you went with john to the beach? Him: Uh??? What are you talking about? I never went to the beach with him Me: Yes, you did! You went to the beach with john.... Him: No, I didn't.... (few seconds later) Him: Oh!!! Yes, I did!!! Me: Wait....you didn't...tell me the truth, what did you do that day? And after this question he started laughing... I can almost BET he is lying to me! So...I broke up with him, but now i'm feeling a little bit guilty...what if he wasn't lying...? What should I do? Ermm, from a guy's perspective, I will do that without realizing at times. I am not that much of someone who remember on details and it could be a honest mistake. I am surprised though that you broke up with him on a very unsubstantiated and pretty harmless "lie" imho (if you call that a lie in the first place). I personally think you are over-reacting to a huge degree, and you should make just a little logical sense and stay with him. That said, if I was the guy, I don't know whether I will go back with a girl who breaks up for a single harmless forgetfulness situation.
Author marianac Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Ermm, from a guy's perspective, I will do that without realizing at times. I am not that much of someone who remember on details and it could be a honest mistake. I am surprised though that you broke up with him on a very unsubstantiated and pretty harmless "lie" imho (if you call that a lie in the first place). I personally think you are over-reacting to a huge degree, and you should make just a little logical sense and stay with him. That said, if I was the guy, I don't know whether I will go back with a girl who breaks up for a single harmless forgetfulness situation. Well, this is the first time that he forgets about something, and he actually remember things VERY well, he remember little conversations that we had a year ago and I wouldn't remember them if he didn't tell me about it...c'mon...it actually happened 9 days ago! I've met him for 1 year and a half and this never happened! Also, if he was really telling me the truth he would had put up a fight and try to convince me but no, he didn't. But...it's ok, I can wait a couple days and see if he texts me or something, and honestly, if he is just not going to do anything, he's going to show me that he isn't that interested in me...so, i will just get over him, even knowing that I'm going to sufer.
CycleOfLove Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 hm.. I think you are Just a little over reacting. maybe he forgot? it happens i don't want to stereotype, but he is a man. and sometimes they just forget things, even if its a small thing or a big thing. If you broke up with him over this, then how will you deal when a real challenge faces both of you? will you try to fix things and talk it out? for the sake of the relationship? or will you just break up with him again,and basically wont face your problems and run away again. Did you even give him a chance to explain himself? what can he possibly say to you? if he is telling the truth, all he can say for defense is only few words like " i am not lieing, I forgot, yes your right I forgot, you don't trust me? why would I lie to you?"Is all he can possibly say,there isn't much of a fight to put. also, if there isnt trust in a realtionship, ESPCIALY when it comes to long distance realtionships, if there isnt trust you can forget about everything, and dont even bother to waste your time because any type of relationship is based on trust. So if there is no trust no relationship will last. Maybe he thinks that if you over react like this over small tiny things, he realizes he doesn't need this type of relationship, and isnt going to deal with this anymore. My advice to you is TALK to him.
Rollercoasterr Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 (edited) Nah, I think something is up with him. No one knows your relationship better than you do, and if you say that he's NEVER forgotten things like this before, then it's fishy. And if it wasn't a lie, why didn't he fight to make you believe him? Edited August 23, 2010 by Rollercoasterr
Romance Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I would have been very mad and probably called and interrogated him. thats veryy shady.
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 FWIW I forget crap like this all the time. All the time. For instance in restaurants I usually ask my friends if I liked a dish last time, because they are more likely to remember than I am. Once I asked somebody what the date was on my birthday. But you know your guy, and say he has a good memory. If your spidey sense if going off, then it's suspicious. Any other signs or just that?
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