4allison Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 i've been constantly treating my husband bad by always letting all my frustrations out on him when he's been nothing but loving and hardworking. i feel bad about this and i want to make him happy again, any advice???
mem11363 Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 How long married? How does he feel about you? \\i've been constantly treating my husband bad by always letting all my frustrations out on him when he's been nothing but loving and hardworking. i feel bad about this and i want to make him happy again, any advice???
hopesndreams Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 You can't make him happy. Being happy is down to him and vice versa. Treat others as you would like to be treated.
BUENG1 Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 i've been constantly treating my husband bad by always letting all my frustrations out on him when he's been nothing but loving and hardworking. i feel bad about this and i want to make him happy again, any advice??? Do you love your husband?
Simon Attwood Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 i've been constantly treating my husband bad by always letting all my frustrations out on him when he's been nothing but loving and hardworking. i feel bad about this and i want to make him happy again, any advice??? You do this because of some previous damage or dysfunction, either remembered or not. It's root is an uncosncious need to protect yourself and defend yourself from something about your relationship that your unconscious defences interpret as threatening. I'd recommend you get yourself a copy of David Richo's "When the Past is Present; healing the emotional wounds that sabotage our relationships" as a good place to start uncovering your motives in the treatement that you subject your husband to.
You Go Girl Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Great signature line, Simon. OP--just remember this. Your H is only going to continue to be the nice guy while you abuse him for only so long. Then the shyte is going to hit the fan, he's going to resent you, and the damage will have been done. Better nip this in the bud, eh?
kuma Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 OP--just remember this. Your H is only going to continue to be the nice guy while you abuse him for only so long. Then the shyte is going to hit the fan, he's going to resent you, and the damage will have been done. Better nip this in the bud, eh? I agree. OP, maybe you can write an apology letter to your husband. Let him know you appreciate him. That's a start.
Distant78 Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 I agree with the previous posters. Better contain this one before something big happens because husbands/men will only take put-downs for so long until they blow unexpectantly. You better do something really nice for him after all the hard work he's done, or he may become the exact opposite of what he's been doing for you, and I know you, as a woman and his wife, wouldn't want that. This marriage can be saved, so I suggest you utilize it to the best of your ability.
carhill Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 i feel bad about this and i want to make him happy again, any advice??? Sure, tell him what you told us here and offer to go to MC to work out the details. If you've been married any length of time, he likely has pain and resentment from your words and actions he'll need to work through. When I had enough, I made an unhealthy choice to have an affair. MC helped me see the reality of that choice and of the dynamic of my marriage clearly. Perhaps, if you have caught this early enough and approach it properly, you can enjoy a loving and long-lived marriage. Welcome to LS.
edgeofdarkness Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 the op needs serious help or at least counselling check her other two threads, this isnt asking for advice this is a cry for help and desperation. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t242706/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t242810/
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