Nilyak Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 (edited) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2151876 This was my original thread last year..I can no longer update and I had to get another user name. Fast forward 1yr. My side came back to me and everything has been great up until 3 weeks ago.She basically said that I wasn't going to change and left me again..I'm still in the same dead end relationship with my girlfriend. God if it wasn't for my son I would have been gone months ago. But now that mistake has cost me the girl I really love. She has been pretty much ignoring my texts and phone calls. So what I had been doing was popping up at her house. The look she gives me when I pull up is hateful and mean. I proceed with my begging and pleading and basically making myself look like a fool. I thought I could get her back like I did last year but its not going to work this time. She tells me to "Go be with my family". To top it off her family had a cook out and I told her I was going to go. Well while I was there she basically ignores me the whole time. I had to literally go out of my way to get her to notice me..This tore my heart right out. I decided to leave. Right now I feel bad as **** and I cried like a little girl..I'm going to start my NC and try to get her out of my system. In the mean time. I'm going to really break it off with my girlfriend and set up some sort of child support arrangement. I can no longer go on living this lie I have been living for so long..Its a shame I had to lose a good woman to finally open my eyes. Edited August 22, 2010 by Nilyak
ShannonMI Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 I can't say I blame your side lady for dumping you. I'm sorry if that hurts, but no woman wants to share her man. You stayed with your girlfriend because you have a child together. A lot of couples stay together "because of the kids" and I don't think that is always the best way to go. If you aren't happy, you should leave. Your son may even be able to feel the tension between the two of you. And if you are fighting, then that isn't good for the child to see either. Sometimes it's best for all involved to just split up. Maybe if you actually split from your girlfriend, your side lady would come around. I, personally, wouldn't take you back. Because what if she gets involved in a real relationship with you and you decide after a number of years that it's a "dead end." She'll be in the same boat as your baby mama is now. No one wants to have to deal with that. I say move on from your side lady and break up with your girlfriend.
Author Nilyak Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 I broke my NC today and sent my sidelay a email. I told her I was sorry for popping up at her house and bothering her at the cook out. I wish you the best. She didn't even respond back. Why do womane leave you hanging?? This is worse than hell. I wish she would respond so I will have some closure. Man so bad right now words cant decribe it...
Author Nilyak Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 I can't say I blame your side lady for dumping you. I'm sorry if that hurts, but no woman wants to share her man. You stayed with your girlfriend because you have a child together. A lot of couples stay together "because of the kids" and I don't think that is always the best way to go. If you aren't happy, you should leave. Your son may even be able to feel the tension between the two of you. And if you are fighting, then that isn't good for the child to see either. Sometimes it's best for all involved to just split up. Maybe if you actually split from your girlfriend, your side lady would come around. I, personally, wouldn't take you back. Because what if she gets involved in a real relationship with you and you decide after a number of years that it's a "dead end." She'll be in the same boat as your baby mama is now. No one wants to have to deal with that. I say move on from your side lady and break up with your girlfriend. Thanks for responding..Today my buddy told me he heard my side was supposed to meet a guy at the cookout.. You're right though I think I have messed up for good..Thing is I have never met a woman that took care of me like her. I will be 40 next year and I was going to end it for good then. So me and my side could be together.I really do love her.
ShannonMI Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Thanks for responding..Today my buddy told me he heard my side was supposed to meet a guy at the cookout.. You're right though I think I have messed up for good..Thing is I have never met a woman that took care of me like her. I will be 40 next year and I was going to end it for good then. So me and my side could be together.I really do love her. Take this as a lesson learned! Don't have a side lady or ladies when you are in a relationship! It's just no good! Cheaters never prosper! I wish you luck though. I'm sure you'll meet someone else. Be true to them when you do.
Author Nilyak Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 Take this as a lesson learned! Don't have a side lady or ladies when you are in a relationship! It's just no good! Cheaters never prosper! I wish you luck though. I'm sure you'll meet someone else. Be true to them when you do. Thanks..I was ashamed of mentioning my age but I did it anyway. I'v always been afraid of commitment. When I meet women there was always a short coming that I didn't like.So to get over that I had multiple women and that got me by. Now I'm tired of that game and the woman that basically treated me like a king is gone. I admit I took somethings for granted though and I never thought she would leave again. I'm breaking it off with my girfriend as of the moment. I'm going to be by myself for awhile and it feels good to have this burdeon off of my shoulders. I feel so sick she is gone..I deserve it though
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