My first week (ish) on Match

[curlygirl40]

Hello

 

So for the record my profile has been on Match since June, but I was a little afraid to put my picture up. I did go on 2 dates late June timeframe with guys that I contacted (and e-mailed them a pic). So really before I put my photos up I was getting no attention (of course).

 

I put my photo on my profile about 10 days ago. So I feel my Match experience didn't start until then, since my profile got no attention before then.

 

So I'm writing just to share and laugh about my experience this past week. Feel free to chime in and do the same, I thought it would be fun to commisserate.

 

I joke that I had one guy join because of me, and one guy quit because of me.

 

I had this guy e-mail me and tell me he joined Match when he saw my profile because he had to say 'hi' to me. He's not my type. Seems like a very sweet guy but he's a farm boy, cowboy type. Not usually my type. I answered him and told him thanks but I didn't think we would make a good match. He wrote back and said thank you to me for letting him know, then he said 'but hey, could you do me a favor and reimburse me for 1/2 of my subscription since it was your good looks that got me into this?'. (then he said he was joking). Totally cracked me up. So I told him I would not pay for 1/2 of his subscription but I would buy him a drink. Because he made me laugh. I told him I didn't think we would be a good match but how about getting together to laugh about the perils of online dating, etc. Then he sent back another e-mail that made me laugh so hard I almost fell off my chair. So who knows, I like funny!! We couldn't coordinate our schedules for almost 2 weeks but we'll be getting together.

 

Then I had e-mailed this other guy who I thought would be a good match for me. He e-mailed me back right away and in that e-mail mentioned getting together for a quick cup of coffee, and he gave me his cell phone number to reach him if I wanted to. One thing I learned early (back in June) is to meet up with people quickly and not e-mail and text forever because the longer you do that the more you think you're going to click with someone, and in person is a whole nother story. Learned that quickly the hard way! So the fact that in the first e-mail he mentioned meeting for coffee was fine with me. (He's not a drinker, and I could take or leave drinking really). So I e-mailed back, nothing long winded or anything. In the e-mail I gave him some times that I could meet up with him. Within the hour he took his profile down. I'm not taking it personally obviously. His profile was 'new' and he mentioned having not dated at all after his divorce. Maybe he just got spooked.

 

I'm 40 years old with 2 teenage boys. I had this one guy contact me who is 30, never married and definitely wants kids. He sent me this nice e-mail. I'm thinking to myself 'does he know I'm 40 and my babymaking days are soooooo over?'. I kinda told him that in an e-mail and he said it was 'all good'. Nope, all set with him. Not out to waste anyone's time.

 

That's another thing I can't decide about. I'm not willing to have more children at this point. Some of these guys in their profile (who are in their 40's) say they 'definitely' want more children. When I see a guy like this I feel like I'm wasting their time by contacting them. Should I feel that way? Or should I assume they can simply read my profile and see I'm done having children and then they can decide if that's a deal breaker?

 

So this is the thing that perplexes me. Feel free to chime in. I have had several guys e-mail or wink at me from all over the US. I live in CT. I had a 35 year old guy contact me from Albany NY. A guy contacted me from Texas, another from Pennsylvania. And a really cute 42 year old contacted me yesterday from Louisianna. So as I'm mowing the lawn yesterday I'm wondering do they start alphabetically? Like Alaska, Arkansas, Colorado, Connecticut? Or do they start from their geographic location and work in concentric circles until they will find someone to date them? (I know I need a life) And if this guy can't find anyone in the state of TX to date him, why does he think I will? Boy these guys are flinging spaghetti far and wide to see if it will stick. What is their game? Scam of some sort? Hmmm

 

Then this other guy e-mailed me. I wasn't quite sure about him but I did e-mail him back to say 'hi'. His very next e-mail said only 'my name is Dave, call me 860-555-3983' (made up number of course). My first thought was 'make me!'. (sorry, I'm childish and saying that cracks me up) We haven't even really talked about anything on e-mail, I thought that was strange.

 

So anyway, that was my first 10 days on match. I'm e-mailing with about 3-4 guys right now, just friendly banter. We'll see where it goes.

 

Thanks for listening. Chime in with your own experiences, I would love to hear.