Jabez Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Ok so here's the story: 2 weeks ago Wednesday I was walking home from work and I made a pit stop at my ex's hose. We'd broken up like 2 months ago and though it was rough, we remained on speaking terms and we'd said that if we were meant to be together then we would be. I'd told her I would be taking her out for her bday dinner (something I'd planned since we started dating) but she couldn't for whatever reason. At the end of June she went out of town. The monday after she got back, I noticed a car I'd never seen before parked out front of her house. Now back to 2 Wednesdays ago. I texted her and let her know that I was stoppig for a minute to rest and have a cigarette, and she texted back saying she wanted to have one with me. We talked for about 15 minutes and she was telling me how she was out with some guy shed met while she was away, and then she told me he was her new boyfriend. And she was HAPPY about it. I couldn't even look at her for the last 5 mins we talked. I left, and I became so overcome with rage and anger that I laid into a light pole and nearly broke my hand. I got home, pulled out a bottle of tequila and downed half of it. When she texted me about it a couple days later, she said that it "just happened" and "it is what it is". The week after (this past week) she was out of town with him and just got back in last night. And she lives RIGHT AT THE ENTRANCE to my neighborhood, which forces me to see her everyday. I don't know if I'm even going to survive my birthday this wednesday..it's supposed to be MY day, but all I can think about is her and what she did to me.
cookie2 Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 This is why you should not be friends with an ex. Initiate NC immediately. And you might want to see someone about your anger issues!
Tripp Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Hey man, I've been through something quite similar. All I can say is chin up. Its her life, and her responsibility. You should do the best you can to be happy, and enjoy the occasions/opportunities in front of you, and not let her bring you down. You don't want to look back and remember how she screwed up your birthday, trust me, you feel so wasted and silly. What I can suggest, is just show her that you're happy, and that you to are moving on, and that you're better off without her. Thats honestly the best move to make. Take it easy bud, and happy birthday!
bonpaw2008 Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Happy BD my friend....we all know how much this stuff hurts, but you will get through it. It is the closure, the knowing that there is not a chance to get back together with her that is making you sad. You need to start concentrating on yourself. Start working out, quit the cigs, don't drink because it will only make you feel worse. As you walk past her house from now on pretend like it doesn't exist, look at it and look right through it.... Dude, she quit you, she doesn't want to be with you and she has moved on. It sucks, but you deserve better and you will find it.
BiAxident Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Sorry to hear about what you're going through. Like BP said, what she has given you is closure. I know it hurts, and I know it sucks. Right now, you need to focus on you.
skydiveaddict Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 cookie is right ever be friends with an ex
Chi townD Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Don't be there on your B-Day. Make plans to get away. Drag some buds with you and for God sakes Turn off your phone for that day. Give yourself a nice holiday! Happy Birthday!
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