BiAxident Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 For the past seven weeks, I've been back together with an ex-gf who I previously dated and lived with for 2 years. She ended the relationship in 2008, and I utilized NC until April of this year. When I finally broke NC with a phone call, she invited me up to her place that evening and we had sex. That turned into FWB, which turned into her wanting to get back together. I was very apprehensive to get back together with her, given that she left me very suddenly the first time around. After weeks of waiting for me to come around, she started an account on a dating website and chatted with other men. After meeting some other guys, she declared that they didn't compare to me, and decided to give "us" another chance! Given that we dated before, and have known each other for 17 years, things moved fast -- we spoke of marriage and she said I could keep her forever with a ring, basically that she was willing to marry me. Things were great, until 2 weeks ago when she went across the country for a family trip. During the ten days she was gone, she evidentially got a case of cold feet, hardly contacting me at all. During the one time we did chat online, she said she's having serious doubts about the relationship, doesnt feel any "spark" and "loves me but isnt in love with me". She wants to be sure that I'm not a "rebound relationship". She returned back to town this past week, and was upset to find that I was upset with her confession of having doubts, after basically saying she was ready for marriage. We had a talk, but nothing new was really stated -- she said she wants to give the relationship time to see if she falls in love with me. Then, she took off for 5 days to go to a musical festival. She has assured me that we are still a couple, and that she loves me, but it is hard not to be paranoid, not to be nervous, that everything is about to come to an end. At the same time, I'm still in a relationship with the woman I love! It's all very confusing, and makes for odd coping!
LostInTurn Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 The best way I could respond to do this... Do you have faith?
Author BiAxident Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 Unfortunately no, at least not in a religious sense.
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