L3stat Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 first off let me say thanx for all the advice i do get. my gf of 2yrs broke up with me about 2 maybe 3 weeks ago. she said she doesnt love me anymore, hasnt for a while, this isnt the first time shes told me these words and this isnt the first time she dumped me but we always worked out and always got back together, but this time is different. im hurting like hell, i did everything for her, when i met her i she didnt have anything she got kick out of school, had no job nothing, i paid for her school got her a job and bought her a car, and fix and bought new things for her room, bed, etc. i even quit my job because she said she could handle the money until i got a new job. but right after i quit and bought her a car with the remaining money i had left..she dumps me and im left here with nothing i mean not a penny to my name, and when i call her now if she picks up the phone shes always saying "what" "what do i want" and **** like that. she tells me "why the hell am i at her house" ignores all my messages... and she even said "im this close to changing my number". i dont get it i went through hell to support her, i gave her everything i had, i admit i wasnt perfect sometimes i took her for granted but i always tried to make her happy, and i truly do love her and i do believe she did love me. but why is she treating my like **** now? on the rare chance i do talk to her its always harsh cold, heartless words that come out her mouth. sighs...today 8/21/2010 i went on date with this girl who i been new who i know likes me alot, had sex, but it didnt feel right the whole time with her every kiss and hand holding just made me sick to my stomach, the sex was i dont even know what to say about the sex it was bad for me at least. i know i shouldnt of went out with the other girl but i just wanted to forget about her but now i feel like i betrayed her and i didnt really love her, if i could go out and have sex with another women like that.....i was her first...i dont know what to do, i dont want to lose her i really care about her alot but she change into this person i dont even know, she says "i dont get it" "you dont understand nice" shes 20 im 25 i been in a previous break up like this one before her, when i was living with my girl but she wouldnt leave her babby day alone for ****... but the girl that just dumped me i was ready to sette down with her, i mean everything reminds me of her, the car that she help me buy, the close i wear, we still on the same phone plan..and since i quit my job she gives me some pitty money here and there... i want her back so bad it hurts. i drive to her house and just sit outside for hours and just cry and write all these love/hate letters and leave them in her mailbox, i call and text her like crazy, from pvt numbers, and she just does not respond at all and when she does its always negative its so ****ing hard, i need help. God grant me the serenity to accept the things i can not change and the courage to change the things i can and the knowledge to know the difference.............
thrownaway Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 From this point forward.... STOP ALL CONTACT with her. No more. You will shock her by just ceasing the calls, the letters, the drive-by's, etc. You are so young and have so much to learn, don't throw this time away on someone who doesn't want you and wants to torture your soul. It seems more and more that we don't want the people who want us - we seem to want the ones who do not want us. Why is that? Think about what life could be like with a woman who wants you, who wants to be with you and walk with you when you have no job... much more, imagine being with a woman who wouldn't let you quit your job in the first place but instead had the ambition to get one herself!!! Stick with the people who want to go someplace in life.... stay away from the ones who want to suck you dry and leave you.
Nappeal Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Ok, I have to be honest here: Its sounds as if you've already scared her, and then some. She left you in a shytty situation, granted, but you have to do what you can to move on w that like getting a new job and getting things lined up to get money and that. I honestly can say that I'm surprised she hasn't changed her number yet. If my ex, no matter how much I may have loved him, was sitting outside my house in his car crying, and leaving letters and such in my mailbox, I would most definitely have to tell him to leave me alone. That's too much buddy, and you're in no way going to win her back that way, that is for sure. You must leave her alone. You will begin to heal, and she may be more willing to pay her debt after a while. You just have to let go. This is not healthy for you. Leave her alone and take the steps necessary to move on.
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