spookie Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 It seems like everywhere I look, there's examples proving everyone's a cheat. I was at a party the other night - I left early. One of my closest friends told me that after I left, a girl that we work with, who is in a serious long-distance relationship with a guy in the military - "practically raped him" - by which he meant, took him up to her room, and before he had a chance to figure out what was going on, jumped on top of him and began having sex. They had sex for 2 hours that night, and 2 more the next morning. A week later, she's still "in a relationship", so I'm guessing her bf is none the wiser. Now all I can think about is how easy it would be for my bf to do the same thing to me, and get away with it.
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Well it wasn't really all her. I mean, the guy has to help some what when a woman is taking his pants off. He didn't not know what was "going on" when his pants and underwear were completely removed, and she had removed her own panties. He had plenty of time to realize that the woman was hoping to have sex with him and had plenty of time to refuse, if he so wanted to. "Takes two to tango" You can't just "jump on top of someone and start having sex" unless they are completely naked. Was he already completely naked, as well as she, then she "took" him upstairs and he didn't figure out what was going on until his erect penis was about to enter her vagina? Nothing close to rape going on here.
lso802 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Yeah. It's definitely easy for anyone to cheat and get away with it. Just because it's easy, it doesn't mean we all do it.
EYECANDY000 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Now all I can think about is how easy it would be for my bf to do the same thing to me, and get away with it. Anyone can cheat.. It doesnt make it right.. I am a firm believer in what goes around, comes around.. In the end , they wont get away with it.
Gallaxia Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 (edited) Well it wasn't really all her. I mean, the guy has to help some what when a woman is taking his pants off. He didn't not know what was "going on" when his pants and underwear were completely removed, and she had removed her own panties. He had plenty of time to realize that the woman was hoping to have sex with him and had plenty of time to refuse, if he so wanted to. "Takes two to tango" You can't just "jump on top of someone and start having sex" unless they are completely naked. Was he already completely naked, as well as she, then she "took" him upstairs and he didn't figure out what was going on until his erect penis was about to enter her vagina? Nothing close to rape going on here. Indeed. And I like (OP) how your friend conveniently placed the blame on the girl- R'ship or not. (And I don't condone cheating whatsoever). I'd venture to guess your friend also releases himself of responsibility in other areas too, should it be anything of 'inconvenience'......"she practically raped him" ??? I bet if she were ugly, he'd have somehow magically found the ability to say "NO" and push, no, SHOVE her off. I call BULL**** ! Not all women cheat. Not all men cheat. What you're starting to think is just a defense mechanism or justification of some kind (only you really know why) that will most definitely hurt you in the long run. Quit it! Edited August 21, 2010 by Gallaxia
Stockalone Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 (edited) It seems like everywhere I look, there's examples proving everyone's a cheat. I was at a party the other night - I left early. One of my closest friends told me that after I left, a girl that we work with, who is in a serious long-distance relationship with a guy in the military - "practically raped him" - by which he meant, took him up to her room, and before he had a chance to figure out what was going on, jumped on top of him and began having sex. They had sex for 2 hours that night, and 2 more the next morning. A week later, she's still "in a relationship", so I'm guessing her bf is none the wiser. Now all I can think about is how easy it would be for my bf to do the same thing to me, and get away with it. If what your friend told you is the truth, then it is obvious that he is scum who doesn't give a damn about others. I think you should look for new, better friends, just like Woggle should. If your bf is the same kind of self-absorbed ahole, then you have a problem. Edited August 22, 2010 by Stockalone
alphamale Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Now all I can think about is how easy it would be for my bf to do the same thing to me, and get away with it. well thats a chance we all have to take
Author spookie Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 Indeed. And I like (OP) how your friend conveniently placed the blame on the girl- R'ship or not. (And I don't condone cheating whatsoever). I'd venture to guess your friend also releases himself of responsibility in other areas too, should it be anything of 'inconvenience'......"she practically raped him" ??? I bet if she were ugly, he'd have somehow magically found the ability to say "NO" and push, no, SHOVE her off. I call BULL**** ! Not all women cheat. Not all men cheat. What you're starting to think is just a defense mechanism or justification of some kind (only you really know why) that will most definitely hurt you in the long run. Quit it! Oh, I agree. He is also responsible, and what he did was pretty reprehensible too, but her actions are that disturb me the most. She is the one in the relationship. The funny thing is, a couple of hours before this happened, I was outside with a couple of my girl friends and this chick, btiching about how I haven't gotten to see my bf in a while. The girl who lated fcvked my friend pitched in and said she hadn't seen hers in a couple of weeks also, cause he's in the military. The craziest friend that I have, whom I love to bits despite her questionable ethics where relationships are concerned, said, "Fcvk someone else!" Knowing her I was not surprised by this comment, but I attributed it to the fact that she's crazy. I didn't think anyone in their right mind would take it to heart as the other girl did.
zengirl Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 It seems like everywhere I look, there's examples proving everyone's a cheat. I was at a party the other night - I left early. One of my closest friends told me that after I left, a girl that we work with, who is in a serious long-distance relationship with a guy in the military - "practically raped him" - by which he meant, took him up to her room, and before he had a chance to figure out what was going on, jumped on top of him and began having sex. They had sex for 2 hours that night, and 2 more the next morning. A week later, she's still "in a relationship", so I'm guessing her bf is none the wiser. Now all I can think about is how easy it would be for my bf to do the same thing to me, and get away with it. Yes, people cheat. Yes, if you're in a LDR, it's even more difficult to have any signs that someone is cheating (and, I mean, if he's in the military, he has very specific commitments in addition to the distance). I really don't think it's nearly so "easy" to cheat if you're not in a LDR and are in a serious (local) relationship. But that's a bit beside the point. The point is that some people are going to do many things that I find undesirable, dangerous, or offensive in a mate, but my obsessing about that makes me not one bit happier OR smarter. People worry about things because they think it makes them "safer." For the most part, it does not. Did you know studies show optimistic people are more likely to see actual problems coming before they arise? And they have better judgment in dealing with them. Worrying about the ideas of things ("People do X, so it could happen to me" is an idea) is not useful. With cheating in particular. . . I don't know. I've never really worried about cheating. So far as I know I haven't been cheated on. If I ever were, no matter what, I'd leave. So, there's nothing to worry about. I have my boundary, I have my good sense, and that's all I need. Most people who worry lots about cheating are the people who aren't sure they'd have the gumption to leave a cheating partner.
Author spookie Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 With cheating in particular. . . I don't know. I've never really worried about cheating. So far as I know I haven't been cheated on. If I ever were, no matter what, I'd leave. So, there's nothing to worry about. I have my boundary, I have my good sense, and that's all I need. Most people who worry lots about cheating are the people who aren't sure they'd have the gumption to leave a cheating partner. No one has ever cheated on me either, but my dad cheated on my mom (she didn't leave). I think that's where some of my obsession with this topic comes from. I'd leave too, no matter what, no questions asked.
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