LostInTurn Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 So, many of you have read my posts and know I have an opportunity to go on a date. Some have said it's not a good idea while others have said I should try. Well, I obviously have had a bit of difficulty with my feelings, so I'm asking you to please assess. We have spoke on the phone. When we speak, I laugh and my heart doesn't feel as heavy. I feel at ease and I start to remember the important things that I can bring to the table. I also hear compliments someone else is giving me which is nice as well. Does this mean there is hope for me and I'm ready? I'm nervous, but I am ready. I want to date someone and see potential. I would love a new relationship where I am valued as a person and someone who is more or less going to take me seriously the entire time. He's older than I am, he's 34. He seems open and honest, but when I say that I mean... open and honest. My ex was supposedly that way, but in the end not so much. My only fear with someone who is older (and please don't take offend anyone, I'm only writing what I'm thinking) I'm afraid that someone older will want to be in a relationship, get married and settle down instantly? With my past relationship, we wanted to live together but in due time. I still need to take things at a slower pace. Many reasons why, as we know.
bboy Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 He's older than I am, he's 34. He seems open and honest, but when I say that I mean... open and honest. My ex was supposedly that way, but in the end not so much. My only fear with someone who is older (and please don't take offend anyone, I'm only writing what I'm thinking) I'm afraid that someone older will want to be in a relationship, get married and settle down instantly? With my past relationship, we wanted to live together but in due time. I still need to take things at a slower pace. Many reasons why, as we know. When people want to settle down, they want it because they found someone the want to do this with. Age is totally secondary. You should go on the date and see what it will turn out to. Don't try to forecast too much.
bonpaw2008 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Girly just go and have fun! Don't think so much, just enjoy yourself....start slow this guy will understand, and if he doesn't he is not the right one...
lilbunny Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Remember dating is meant to be fun, going out, getting to know someone, doing different things and having a good laugh. Just have fun and if anything or nothing comes of it then you have lost nothing. Good luck and enjoy!
Author LostInTurn Posted August 21, 2010 Author Posted August 21, 2010 Thank you, each of you! I just spoke with him on the phone, learned a lot about him, me, laughed. I feel uplifted when we speak. It's a great feeling. I believe we are meeting tomorrow for mid day drinks. I am... excited. I will work to stay in this frame of mind as well. P.S. he already shows traits I never thought I would find in someone again. Whether it works or not, who knows. It's just reassuring.
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