Egychick Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I know this is strange....But have you ever had the feeling that once you begin to feel happy again after a hard and difficult break up, that you are afraid you are moving on, and forgetting your ex? I mean, the sadness, means you are still keeping them in your mind, and trying to hold onto whatever is left (even though there is nothing) That's how I feel....I guess it's this stage of healing...but still, I keep checking up on his page to see what he is up to....I still am afraid to let go ....... Although now, I have began to accept that he won't call me again, and that he has long ago moved on....it has been 2 months since we broke up froma 3-year relationship. Thoughts?
LostInTurn Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 You shouldn't feel guilty about moving on. There are days when I am semi-ok and worry what if I forget him. You should remember something. Some people are forgotten because they have hurt us, we forget others because of how they treated us and it just took us awhile to see it. Maybe we forget because we find someone who values us and takes all the pain away. Or, perhaps that person will always be remembered. Regardless what will happen. If you are happy and are able to move the hurt from your heart, you're a strong person. Whatever you're doing to allow yourself to move on and leave the pain behind, stick to it. Don't give up. Don't check his status. He doesn't exist anymore. It's difficult. He has now fallen into the background. He is no longer your first thought. You need to be happy. If one day you remember him, you'll remember him. You didn't deserve what you were given, like many of us. What you do deserve though, is to be happy. Please be happy.
Treasa Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I'm more than three months out of a six-year relationship. I'll always care about him on some level, I guess, but I won't ever forget about him. At the same time, I don't ever want him back. Now when I think about him, everything is sort of fuzzy around the edges. The intense love I had for him is no longer there, but neither is the sharp pain. I've redirected my energy into myself and the things I want to do with my life, and I no longer have the time to think much about my ex.
Author Egychick Posted August 21, 2010 Author Posted August 21, 2010 I guess it is like a stage I'm going through. I used to look at his statuses and it would make me cringe. Or I would see him getting what he wants...and not seem to have gone through any pain since breaking up. My stomach would tighten, and I would cry, and it would ruin my whole day. I still get upset to see him moving on easily, and upset that he didn't suffer like I have because of him...but at the same time, I see him now with girls, who don't have 1/3 of the class and respect I had while with him. I almost expect these things now, and it doesn't come as much of a surprise. When I saw girls on his profile who post how they get drunk all the time (and make it a proud game), sleep with anyone...go out and have male strippers dancing in their face (and post these photos publicly) and he is friends with them, it makes me think. I made sure that he respected me (and I myself), his friends and everyone else we know. I came to the realization, even though I still miss him and have love for him (the good part of him) he lost a girl who had respect and class...and someone he didn't have to be ashamed to be around. All I feel now is that he is lost, and rebelling. All I can do is pray for him to find people who will steer him in the right direction instead of people who don't have his best interest at hand. I'll never forget him....but I guess the pain will lessen, as I will not be surprised at the things I see....and eventually I will stop wondering about it and looking..(I'm not there yet)
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