Sambo Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 (edited) Well the 23 rd marks the date of my break up. I'm writing this for personal cathartic reasons but also to share some hope with others. The brief story goes: 3 year relationship with a woman I think I actually loved more then life itself and she would always tell me she loved me more then any other man ever. I had financial troubles during the whole time and she finally gave up and asked me to leave. She meets a new guy (more financially stable) within 5 days after I leave and she tells me she thinks he's the one. Obviously I was crushed. I went for a few weeks of contact with her but all she did was hurt me and tell me all about how wonderful the new guy was and how much better she thinks he is then I am. I decided that was enough of that and I have been NC for 6 weeks now with the exception of one email which she wrote that was very brief and matter of fact. (I responded in the same tone). In the beginning I could not even breathe without it hurting. I stayed busy and did everything I could to take my mind off of the situation. I focused on my relationship with God and on my financial situation. I dated a few women but I found that made me feel worse, so I cut that down. I've had some good days and some bad days but eventually the good days started to out number the bad. I am very thankful for my relationship with God and I am thankful I had some good friends that helped me cope. The good news is that I do feel much better and I can breathe and relax again and I am healing but still have some ways to go still. I still see constant reminders of her everywhere and yes it does still hurt but it never last too long now. Just earlier today I opened a file on my computer and saw a picture of her and my heart went a little crazy but after a few minutes it passed. I'm far from 100% but I have grown from this experience and I'm trying to stay focused on all the good that's come from this. I will tell you this much I know that I have found the real love of my life in God and he will never leave me and I will never place another human being before him ever again. Peace and Love to Everyone in here, you are all very special people. Edited August 21, 2010 by Sambo
edgeofdarkness Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 interesting. She pretty much treated u like dirt form the word go, after she dumped u. basically your leaning on god to fill the gap. im glad thats working for u. find a girl who feels the same about god as u do, that way u will have more in common, but dont forget god will matter to her more than u do too. good luck dude.
Author Sambo Posted August 21, 2010 Author Posted August 21, 2010 (edited) interesting. She pretty much treated u like dirt form the word go, after she dumped u. basically your leaning on god to fill the gap. im glad thats working for u. find a girl who feels the same about god as u do, that way u will have more in common, but dont forget god will matter to her more than u do too. good luck dude. Thanks, I fine with the next woman loving God more then me, it sure is heck better then being left for a guy that owns a insurance agency. Edited August 21, 2010 by Sambo
edgeofdarkness Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 or being a lying arsehole and leaving your wife on your wedding day leaving a trail of lies and deceit and basically telling her from the word go but too late to reverse it that u dont want to be with her any more. at least she never took u to the altar.
ShannonMI Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I'm glad you are feeling better. The woman you were with sounds like a real witch. It sounds like all she cares about is money. You are better off without her. You will find someone someday that deserves you.
Author Sambo Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 I'm glad you are feeling better. The woman you were with sounds like a real witch. It sounds like all she cares about is money. You are better off without her. You will find someone someday that deserves you. Shannon, Thanks and yes she was a bitch at times but to be fair from the beginning she told me she wanted a man with money and I never expected my career to take as long as it did. The irony is that I started to make some good money lately and now I could spoil her the way I always wanted too but now she's gone. You are 100% right though there are many other women in this world that will love me for me and not just for what I do for them. btw, If that avatar is you, your a very beautiful woman .
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