kiss_andmakeup Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 In my last unsuccessful relationship, we had waited about a month before sleeping together. In my current and 2.5-year successful relationship, we had sex on the first date. I'm not saying there's necessarily a correlation, in fact I doubt it has much to do with anything. Which is kind of my point. Waiting doesn't guarantee success, much as not waiting doesn't guarantee failure. I guess it's completely dependent on the people and circumstances.
Philetus Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I disagree. For example, as a generalization, the Spanish woman was beautiful, amazing, romantic and inventive mostly because you did not know her at all. She was just the perfect fantasy in your mind. Rejection after ONS hurts because you are not IRL but in your fantasy world. The truth is that you do not know the real woman because you had no time for that. No offense meant, but you assume a lot. Why do you think these assumptions about me are more accurate then your previous incorrect assumptions about my age and marital history? There is a high probability IMO, if she had dumpted you after 2 weeks instead of one night, you would see that as a blessing because you would know the real her. Again, I don't know where that comes from. My current gf and I slept together on the first date and we're now madly in love. If she dumped me now, I'd be devastated. I suppose it's possible the Spanish woman and I could have drifted apart had we kept seeing each other, but I don't see why you consider it a high probability? As for your question, it is not about protection, but it is about readiness for sex. It is the question of getting pleasure from sex for myself. I need to make sure that the guy has some potential to provide sexual pleasure for me. I need to make sure that I feel chemistry for that guy. And, I need to have answers on the questions, even it is mindless sex with no serious emotional attachment. You make my point for me. You need very specific things for you. All I'm saying is different people require different things and we shouldn't project what is right for us onto other people. That's all.
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