Are a lot of women sleeping with guys on the first date?

[denise_xo]

LOL, I thought that too, and then stbx filed for divorce and it all went away. Tranquility. Healthy boundaries have returned.

 

:laugh: Good for you!

[jadedone]

Of the women I have had sex with 82% of them were on the 1st date. the remaining 18% were on the 2nd date.

[Philetus]

Of the women I have had sex with 82% of them were on the 1st date. the remaining 18% were on the 2nd date.

 

Are you sure it wasn't 81.8%?

[a_woman]

I don't consider it good to sleep with someone you hardly know.

 

Oh sometimes it's the best

[a_woman]

Meeting somebody for the first time, getting caught up in a moment, and winding up in bed together is incredibly thrilling. It's fun. It's fun whether you're a man or a woman.

 

This. I love giving the guy that look that makes him realise I will have sex with him. The sooner that happens the bigger his pleasant surprise. I love seducing someone, it's so much fun. Nothing to do with 'giving it up'. What a ridiculous expression.

[Mad Max]

Some do have sex on the first date. I would not continue seeing someone that did that, but that's me. I don't have sex without an STD test(and condoms mean sh*t with some STDs). If I'm on a first date and she gives it up(or tries to), there won't be a second date. I don't sleep with people I barely know.

[bac]

Maybe, just maybe she does it because she wants to?

 

Maybe she's with someone who is non-judgmental, romantic, and makes her feel attractive?

 

Women don't have to be bipolar, insane, or on drugs to sleep with someone on a first date.

 

People are adults and they make choices based on what is right for them. Rational people in full control of their faculties can make a choice to have sex with someone they just met.

 

I don't understand where your judgment of the way other people choose to live their lives comes from?

 

As for immaturity, remind yourself of how old you and the girls who loved sex on the first date were. My guess the girls are most often in 20s, and you are young as well.

 

Sure, she does it because she wants to, but the reasons are different that males' reasons to want to.

 

How do you know that she is emotionally stable? Many bipolars do not know who they are in terms of their condition untill they reach a breaking point.

Do you think a depressed woman has nothing to do except to report her guy for ONS that the only reason why she is willing to have sex with him is to forget/distract herself from depression and severe emotional pain.

 

As for drugs, I would assume you agree that you can meet those girls mostly in bars or other places where they are drinking alcohol.

 

My judgement comes from my life experience and from being in the shoes of a female. Sure, there are exceptions which are very specific situations when ONSs are super cool, but they are just exceptions.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

You're suggesting the only reason a woman sleeps with a man on the first date is because they lack self respect?

 

 

Yes thats exactly what I'm suggesting not ALL women but a high rate that are willing to give it up so quickly do have low self esteem to some degree yes other wise they would respect them selves more thats just MHO on it

[Serenitynow]

This thread is funny, because there have been a number of women on this site that ADMIT to doing that, yet you dont see them within 5 miles of this thread.

 

People tend to shy away from threads when its very pinpointed and direct.

 

 

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[SpanksTheMonkey]

It's both. Sex doesn't have to be one thing, fulfill one role. "Sex: It's not just for procreation anymore."

 

Meeting somebody for the first time, getting caught up in a moment, and winding up in bed together is incredibly thrilling. It's fun. It's fun whether you're a man or a woman.

 

Of course it isn't for everybody, we all have different tastes. That's why they make chocolate and vanilla ice cream.

 

 

Doing cocaine can also be incredibility thrilling but its not necessarily the best thing for your health or mental welfare. Being permisquiess is a self destructive behavior just so I'm clear here I'm talking about people who do this on almost a regular basis.

 

Not Joe smoe who happed to have a one night stand thats life and I'm sure its happed to us all at least once. But when having sex with complete strangers becomes a regular thing then that just can't be healthy in the long run

 

 

 

 

 

 

I don't understand your point.

 

If a person values themselves they don't go around letting their bodies be "used" in that maner they would see themselves as being worth the wait. IE "if he really likes me he will wait until we form a actual relashionship"

 

Do I really need to explain the idea of the wateing for sex? how if your worth it they will wait? And how women or men I guess for that matter who give it up so quickly and to any one may suffer from low self esteem from doing so?

 

Wow I would have thought that was common knowledge I guess we are becomming totaly rewired due to the over sexed mindset anymore sad eh ok moveing on...

 

 

Assuming this is true (which I don't believe) wouldn't religious people who are more likely to wait have a lower divorce rate? Yet, religious people divorce at a higher rate than secularists.

 

 

I'm not going to make this into a religious debate I'm not a religious person myself so I don't think religion makes anyone more or less susceptible to divorce. Bottom line is look at the divorce rates from before the "sexual revolution" and now and I bet you will see a def noticeable difference.

 

 

 

 

 

 

One word - condoms.

 

 

Um you do realize that even condoms are not the save all end all of preventing STDs? and def not unwanted pregnancy? besides every ones so "hot to trot" now a days that many will even do it regardless of weither or not they even have protection many still can't resist.

 

Don't believe me? Go have a look at the threads were women are "afraid they are preg" or "I'm afraid I have a STD" And why? Oh because we had unprotected sex, If sex is so common place then people tend to let their guards down after all they think "it wont happen to me I'm good"

 

 

This is irrelevant and has more to do with poverty, sex education, etc. Again, areas in the world where 'abstinence' is preached have much higher rates of teen pregnancy that areas of the world (or the US) that have more liberal values towards sex education.

 

I'de love to know were your getting your figures from how on earth do you not think that the trend towards super casual sex isent contributing towards teen pregnancy's? that just doesn't make sense.

 

Years ago when you were a kid it was a huge thing to just "make out" now your not even cool unless you have had sex before age 15.

 

You honestly can't connect those dots? Or you would rather not admit it? The adult world directly influences what kids are doing now a days. So yes ide say its quite relevant.

 

Children can only learn from what examples are given the only difference is they have even less common sense then most adults witch is a recipe for disaster

 

Just for the record I'm only in my early 30s and as I said before I'm not a religious person so these views are not influenced by anything other then common sense..

Edited August 23, 2010 by SpanksTheMonkey

[bac]

This. I love giving the guy that look that makes him realise I will have sex with him. The sooner that happens the bigger his pleasant surprise. I love seducing someone, it's so much fun. Nothing to do with 'giving it up'. What a ridiculous expression.

 

Where are the sacred places for male's sedaction? I would love to put some effort to seduce a man but where to find a man like that.

 

In clubs/bars, there are plenty of men who would do anyone who agrees for a ONS.

On line, there are tons of men who are looking for ONSs.

A pleasant surprise for the guys? I doubt that they are going to be surprised or even thankful. They go to bars/online looking for ONSs with whoever agrees.

Do they need an art of seduction there? I would say they are already horny enough and ready for sex.

I would assume if a girl is 60 y.o, 300 pounds, and with ugly rash all over her body, she might need to use some seduction for the horny men. But, otherwise, she does not need to put any extra effort to screw the guys because they are desperately looking for the stuff.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Where are the sacred places for male's sedaction? I would love to put some effort to seduce a man but where to find a man like that.

 

In clubs/bars, there are plenty of men who would do anyone who agrees for a ONS.

On line, there are tons of men who are looking for ONSs.

A pleasant surprise for the guys? I doubt that they are going to be surprised or even thankful. They go to bars/online looking for ONSs with whoever agrees.

Do they need an art of seduction there? I would say they are already horny enough and ready for sex.

I would assume if a girl is 60 y.o, 300 pounds, and with ugly rash all over her body, she might need to use some seduction for the horny men. But, otherwise, she does not need to put any extra effort to screw the guys because they are desperately looking for the stuff.

 

Agreed seams some women really glamorize it like its some kind of romantic fairy tale rendezvous or something but really its not its just simple animal instinct.

 

That said to see that kind of mind set coming from some women is not surprising considering how most do over romanticize love/dating way more then guys do in the 1st place.

[meerkat stew]

what's the rush????

 

I know, it kills lots of the fun, and if you click, it's gonna happen sooner rather than later. Of course the first date sex can be fun too, as others say. No reasonable, mature person is going to judge you one way or the other for this, especially if they really dig you. Guys who have an "up or out" policy with a certain number of dates attached are going to be inflexible and dull in other ways. Ironically, by not focusing on number of dates and just having fun, you end up in bed faster than keeping a "date count" anyway.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

What about waiting until a actual relationship is formed is that totally not an option any more? I don't mean marriage of course but some level of exclusivity or dose a potential partner "have to give it up" with in a cirtn amount of time?

[jamesum]

I dont condone sex with someone you hardly know solely due to the STD risk.

 

But calling someone lacking self-respect for going for something she wants is pretty dumb.

 

Women are no longer possessions whose bodies are tradeable goods. At least not here in America as far as I know.

 

What about waiting until a actual relationship is formed is that totally not an option any more?

Did anyone say its not an option? I think you are the one who is passing judgment on people who dont wanna wait. Edited August 23, 2010 by jamesum

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I dont condone sex with someone you hardly know solely due to the STD risk.

 

But calling someone lacking self-respect for going for something she wants is pretty dumb.

 

Women are no longer possessions whose bodies are tradeable goods. At least not here in America as far as I know.

 

Did anyone say its not an option? I think you are the one who is passing judgment on people who dont wanna wait.

 

I'm not passing judgement heck if they want sleep with some one in the 1st 5 seconds more power to them you go girl!. I'm not judging them I wont say I personally respect a decision like that no but thats my opinion and I'm entitled to it just as you are yours.

 

But on the other hand I wouldn't put them down for it no. Saying that some one who chooses to sleep around allot may have low self esteem from it is far from "putting people down".

 

I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks that but maybe I'm just the only one who said it I dunno.. You don't believe me think back to high school did your school have "that girl" you know the one who gave it to everyone how much respect did that girl have/get? lets be honest here..

 

I'm sure we could replace that scenario with countless others but you still get my point I'm sure.

 

That was a serious question I asked cause I was wondering what the percentage of people who are willing to wait until a actual relationship has formed was thats all...nothing more nothing less on that one..

Edited August 23, 2010 by SpanksTheMonkey

[jamesum]

 

But on the other hand I wouldn't put them down for it no. Saying that some one who chooses to sleep around allot may have low self esteem from it is far from "putting people down".

Many women especially younger women below 25 sleep around simply because they have zero self-esteem. Yes this is true.

 

But there are also a lot of women who sleep around simply because they have high libido.

 

I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks that but maybe I'm just the only one who said it I dunno.. You don't believe me think back to high school did your school have "that girl" you know the one who gave it to everyone how much respect did that girl have/get? lets be honest here..

Errr ... it was high school. Come on now.

 

Back in high school all the girls too also only wanna date the football jocks and laughed at the nerds.

 

We were all young and stupid.

 

I suspect you are like 18 or 19 years old. If thats the case then I understand if your way of thinking is still defined by your high school experience.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Many women especially younger women below 25 sleep around simply because they have zero self-esteem. Yes this is true.

 

These are the ones im aiming at not the ones who may have a few ONSs here and there

 

But there are also a lot of women who sleep around simply because they have high libido.

 

Errr ... it was high school. Come on now.

 

Back in high school all the girls too also only wanna date the football jocks and laughed at the nerds.

 

We were all young and stupid.

 

I suspect you are like 18 or 19 years old. If thats the case then I understand if your way of thinking is still defined by your high school experience.

 

Oh lordy I wish I was 18 or 19 nada I'm 32 ok lets change up that scenario you ever seen "that girl" at the office or "that girl" at the gym you know the kind I'm talking about. High school was just the most obvious blatant example that came to mind thats all

[jamesum]

Oh lordy I wish I was 18 or 19 nada I'm 32 ok lets change up that scenario you ever seen "that girl" at the office or "that girl" at the gym you know the kind I'm talking about. High school was just the most obvious blatant example that came to mind thats all

I dont know what you are talking about. I think you have been hanging out with the wrong kind of people. I only met people with such immature way of thinking in high school and maybe among college freshmen.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I dont know what you are talking about. I think you have been hanging out with the wrong kind of people. I only met people with such immature way of thinking in high school and maybe among college freshmen.

 

Okie dokie then no I'm not hanging out with any one I'm a fairly soldiery monkey lol.. But I have seen other normal average adults talk about such women so I know its not a complete unicorn.

 

Anyhoo moving along yeah even if women are doing it solely because they have a "high" sex drive they will more then likely attach some kind of emotional baggage on some level to any sex because thats just how we are wired.

 

If a women meets a guy she thinks is cute/hot what ever and she sleeps with him you know darn well shes going to be hopeful for at least a "phone call" the next day.

 

While the guy is prob just thinking cool I had unattached sex last night that conflict in itself can lead to upset/esteem problems for women..

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I dont know what you are talking about. I think you have been hanging out with the wrong kind of people. I only met people with such immature way of thinking in high school and maybe among college freshmen.

 

Also just a further thought about it you seriously have never herd about a women who sleeps around in a office/business setting in hopes of furthering them selves? And it becomes common knowledge those women arnt exactly known as the office saint are they?

 

I'm trying to convey my idea here as tactfully as I can I don't want to be to rude about it tho.. It relay has nothing to do with the people who you know it has to do more with the womens own behavior.

[Sphere]

I do not usually have sex on a first date or even the legendary third date, but I'm completely disinterested in conforming to any "rules" or expectations. I have sex when I feel the right connection and when I think it will be hot, whether I am looking for a fling or an LTR. When the passion flares bright, it's the right time.

 

I'm much the same.

 

I don't understand why there are rules and such on when someone can and can't have sex with someone.

 

It's very common in Scandinavia for people to have sex on the first date. They're much more Liberal when it comes to getting their clothes off.

[jamesum]

Anyhoo moving along yeah even if women are doing it solely because they have a "high" sex drive they will more then likely attach some kind of emotional baggage on some level to any sex because thats just how we are wired.

 

If a women meets a guy she thinks is cute/hot what ever and she sleeps with him you know darn well shes going to be hopeful for at least a "phone call" the next day.

 

While the guy is prob just thinking cool I had unattached sex last night that conflict in itself can lead to upset/esteem problems for women..

Cant this agree with this one because it has been scientifically proven that women produce bonding chemicals during sex.

 

Also just a further thought about it you seriously have never herd about a women who sleeps around in a office/business setting in hopes of furthering them selves? And it becomes common knowledge those women arnt exactly known as the office saint are they?

Yes I have, but its either because the guys are 'children' or the subject woman is an unpleasant person and we talk crap about her because we hate her not because of her sexual life.

[BlackLovely]

I do not understand why a normal emotionally mature woman would do that.

But, I assume that if a woman is very immature and naive she would do many new things just to try what it is. Also, I can understand that if a woman is out of emotional balance for any reason she can do those things as well. There are plenty of women who are out of emotional balance i.e. depressed, the bipolars, the borderlines, on drugs/alcohol.

 

 

:D:D:lmao::lmao: Hmm...maybe because she just wants some sex??? Of course, only an abnormal woman has immediate sexual needs, right??

 

What century are you in sweetie?

 

During my single days, if all I wanted was sex, it didn't matter how quickly I took a man to bed because I wasn't looking for a relationship.

Conversely, if I wanted a relationship, I would show restraint. Men like to judge women about sex, even if they have slept with the whole block.

[BlackLovely]

This. I love giving the guy that look that makes him realise I will have sex with him. The sooner that happens the bigger his pleasant surprise. I love seducing someone, it's so much fun. Nothing to do with 'giving it up'. What a ridiculous expression.

According Bac, you and I are unbalanced and immature!