teanoranges Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 My ex recently broke NC to alleviate his guilt. I could tell just by reading his letter and understanding that that is the main reason most ex's break nc.. sadly, I can not refuse him a response. Though a short one, I made it clear that he does not need to feel guilt, that I'm okay, and that is all... no pretty words. no reaching out for friendship or a time to get together. And I'm okay, for now. I have finally found acceptance and have learned that these emotional times are meant for us, there's no way around them. So its just time to keep living life the way I have been, doing wonderful. Let's hope that doesn't change.
grace0411 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 it must be hard when you're contacted by an ex to not answer it but i think keeping it short and sweet is the best thing to do. moving on is not easy but again, it's usually the best thing to do. that person may feel guilty or like they made a mistake and no one is perfect but they were sure enough to let you go and now they should lie in the bed they made.
mickleb Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 sadly, I can not refuse him a response. My God! Do they still have that gun against your head! Somebody call a copper! Let's hope that doesn't change. Unless you reply again if he chooses to continue this conversation, they should be just fine. Take care, tea x
bonpaw2008 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Hey Tea - same thing happened to me yesterday. He broke NC, apologizing for breaking it, asking me if it was alright to chime in and talk to me sometimes, etc. I was alright about it, and truthfully it is easier to just let him contact me every once in a while. It really is a ton of work to keep completely NC with all the people we know, places we go, etc. I did the same thing as you - kept it cordial, no personal info, and just told him if he needed or wanted to talk to me he could. I feel that I gained acceptance after 5 weeks, I know that our break-up was for the best, and there is someone better out there for me. So the contact didn't send me into a spin, I wasn't looking for the "hidden meaning" of him saying "hi" I just took it for what it was. We were huge parts of each other's lives and he struggles without me too. But he doesn't want to get back together, he just wants his friend back. Glad you are strong!
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