Tayla Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Just wanted to give a shout out that its been 1 year since my official break up from a long term relations! Coming this far has been a growing experience with some major flaws along the way on how to adjust. The biggest thing I have learned is their is life after the break up and man is it good!!! Much is clearer in hindsight Since this is a co worker that I still have to deal with , its done in a professional way with that level of history to keep the healthy barriers in tact. SO to those going thru the early stages of grieving and coming to terms with things...it does get better and you may find that it really was for the best. Three things that are key in coming this far: 1: Stay out of reverse 2: The further detached the more you can see both sides. (yes its weird how you'll see what part you really played in some of the issues that surfaced) 3: Let go graciously.
Nappeal Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Thank you and congrats Tayla I agree, that what's helping me is realizing that the relationship was over before it ended...we just kept hanging on. It wasn't him or I to blame - it just quite literally didn't work. I'm glad you can see your coworker w out wanting to cry your eyes out:laugh:
Sambo Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Just wanted to give a shout out that its been 1 year since my official break up from a long term relations! Coming this far has been a growing experience with some major flaws along the way on how to adjust. The biggest thing I have learned is their is life after the break up and man is it good!!! Much is clearer in hindsight Since this is a co worker that I still have to deal with , its done in a professional way with that level of history to keep the healthy barriers in tact. SO to those going thru the early stages of grieving and coming to terms with things...it does get better and you may find that it really was for the best. Three things that are key in coming this far: 1: Stay out of reverse 2: The further detached the more you can see both sides. (yes its weird how you'll see what part you really played in some of the issues that surfaced) 3: Let go graciously. Tayla, Congratulations !!! Thank you for sharing, I think it's super important that people see that there is light at the end of this tunnel. I've been through a few break ups before but it never gets any easier.
Author Tayla Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 Thanks Sambo! You are right its not an easy task but when breaking and repairing , its good to know we have the skills to move on and repair our lives! Thats where strength is drawn.... Best to you -Tayla
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