DSM2709 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Even after almost two months of my ex breaking up with me, I can still feel the effects of it. I am trying so hard to deal with the emptiness that is in my heart. I miss her so much. We went out last Thursday night and had a great time as "friends", but whe I got home, I texted her to let her know I got home ok and then I said "Goodnight". She never replied, and I have yet to hear from her. Although, I sent her a video of something she would find amuzing on Wednesday, and she replied to the e-mail on Thursday, and said "thanks for thinking of me". Is that a good sign? I replied back to her on Friday (Yesterday) and said that I was not being mushy but she didn't have to thank me for thinking of her because I think of her all the time and that I also miss her. I went on an on about maybe going out again or catching some b'fast at out favorite b'fast spot we use to go to when we were together. I sent a really nice reply, and I'm hoping she will reply soon in a positive way. She's so busy with life that I wonder sometimes, is she seeing anyone else. I am not at the moment, but have been talking to girls in hopes of getting dates. I do need to get over this breakup and be more indepedent, but how? I know I can live on my own, but I feel like there is something missing. I have always jumped into relationships, and I guess I do have abandonment issues because of my childhood, but I don't want to be that person anymore. I want to be strong for myself. Thanks for reading my vent.
thinkgal Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 that you still have feelings for her and that's why you want her to reply to your messages because you want some kinda sign of hope..and even though its hard to let go I think it may be best you do that so that you wont feel hurt. And believe me I know that letting go is hard but to get over her and not be feeling that pain or sadness when she doesnt reply you may need to do that NC that they talk about here. is not much but I hope it helps t>g
LostInTurn Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Even after almost two months of my ex breaking up with me, I can still feel the effects of it. I am trying so hard to deal with the emptiness that is in my heart. I miss her so much. We went out last Thursday night and had a great time as "friends", but whe I got home, I texted her to let her know I got home ok and then I said "Goodnight". She never replied, and I have yet to hear from her. Although, I sent her a video of something she would find amuzing on Wednesday, and she replied to the e-mail on Thursday, and said "thanks for thinking of me". Is that a good sign? I replied back to her on Friday (Yesterday) and said that I was not being mushy but she didn't have to thank me for thinking of her because I think of her all the time and that I also miss her. I went on an on about maybe going out again or catching some b'fast at out favorite b'fast spot we use to go to when we were together. I sent a really nice reply, and I'm hoping she will reply soon in a positive way. She's so busy with life that I wonder sometimes, is she seeing anyone else. I am not at the moment, but have been talking to girls in hopes of getting dates. I do need to get over this breakup and be more indepedent, but how? I know I can live on my own, but I feel like there is something missing. I have always jumped into relationships, and I guess I do have abandonment issues because of my childhood, but I don't want to be that person anymore. I want to be strong for myself. Thanks for reading my vent. I personally, could never find the strength to just 'hangout' with an ex of mine. If I was in your situation. I would disappear for awhile. I would take some time for yourself and take care of yourself. You mentioned having spoken with some girls in hopes for dates. I am currently on the fence about going on a date. I don't think in your situation it is the best idea. It really sounds like if she were to call you tomorrow and say she wanted a second chance, then you would agree. You need to take some time. Don't dwell on the situation, but try and get the old you back. I've done myself a disservice by calling or writing the ex. I admit it. Sometimes the things that helps us the most is disappearing from their lives. They will eventually wonder where we have gone since we were so present. It is at that time, they will wonder. And from there, it may just be too late. Keep writing here. It helps.
Author DSM2709 Posted August 21, 2010 Author Posted August 21, 2010 "It really sounds like if she were to call you tomorrow and say she wanted a second chance, then you would agree." This sounds about right. I am trying really hard to deal with this, and I know I can be on my own, it's just that I guess I have those moments of loneliness is all. I will get through this, and that will be the last e-mail I send her even if she doesn't reply. Thanks.
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