lullaby Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 I think so too. I'm just thinking of my responses to her. Like what if she says "no hard feelings about the breakup?" or some thing like that. What do I do there? It will very hard for you to create a sort of script of your answers because as Thierro said, you never know what can happen when you meet. You should not argue or mention the relationship, so if she says 'no hard feelings about the break up?' just answer 'let's not talk about that ok? it's in the past' or something like it. - she dumped me over the phone - said she was tired of me and the relationship - rebounds in 3 weeks - gave friendship a try but treated me badly, like I was some stranger - changed her personality so it's not the personality that I known her for. - sends me a birthday card with condelences of a deceased family member (a positive) - restricted me on FB If you were me, would you give friendship a try? I wouldn't be in a friendship with her, but you'll decide on your own. Just be sure what you want from that friendship. You won't be able to hear her tell you about the new guy, or that she's going out with other people and not you. And if you get your hopes high, you will be crushed. I've been there and it's quite difficult, you have to be 100 sure that's what you want.
spriggig Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 - she dumped me over the phone - said she was tired of me and the relationship - rebounds in 3 weeks - gave friendship a try but treated me badly, like I was some stranger - changed her personality so it's not the personality that I known her for. - sends me a birthday card with condelences of a deceased family member (a positive) - restricted me on FB If you were me, would you give friendship a try? Just read your list again, if anyone of your other friends did this would you still consider them a friend? These are not the actions of a friend. Trust her actions, not her words. Be honest with yourself and everyone else. Don't lie to her or anyone else to attempt to manipulate her feelings. Stand above it, be an honest gentleman, don't play games. Say as little as possible to her and always be honest and sincere. Don't discuss the relationship with her, if she brings it up, smile and say "That's all in the past now." Never bad-mouth her to anyone else. You are a wise, 50 year-old man who has been around this block so many times all the dogs like you and all the married women want you.
Author Username37 Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 Thanks for the advice everyone. I just want to get this over with. I'm not sure if she will talk to me tomorrow. I ignored her 4 times during NC, she probably doesn't want anything to do with me anymore.
bonpaw2008 Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Thanks for the advice everyone. I just want to get this over with. I'm not sure if she will talk to me tomorrow. I ignored her 4 times during NC, she probably doesn't want anything to do with me anymore. Good luck honey, you will be fine. Concentrate on what is important, you, school, your friends, all those new girls
Author Username37 Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm going to try and be chill as possible. Whatever it takes for me to feel indifferent or get a second chance. It's been a tough 3 months of my life. It was my first break up. But I learned so much from you guys and I learned so much about myself. Even though I'm not totally over my ex girlfriend, I feel stronger than I was back in May. smk, TaraMaiden, lullaby, bonpaw2008, AlwaysConflicted, LoveTruthChaos, Yellowshark. You guys have been really helpful. I looked back at some of my old threads and I ALWAYS see your usernames in them. Thank you very much. Keep me in your prayers and thoughts. I'm gonna need it
lullaby Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm going to try and be chill as possible. Whatever it takes for me to feel indifferent or get a second chance. It's been a tough 3 months of my life. It was my first break up. But I learned so much from you guys and I learned so much about myself. Even though I'm not totally over my ex girlfriend, I feel stronger than I was back in May. smk, TaraMaiden, lullaby, bonpaw2008, AlwaysConflicted, LoveTruthChaos, Yellowshark. You guys have been really helpful. I looked back at some of my old threads and I ALWAYS see your usernames in them. Thank you very much. Keep me in your prayers and thoughts. I'm gonna need it You're so much welcome! It's gonna get better. Remember that at least you're learning something for the future. Love is the most wonderful thing in the world but it can also be the most painful, right? Please keep us updated with everything that happens when you meet her. And remember we are all here for you.
Author Username37 Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 You're so much welcome! It's gonna get better. Remember that at least you're learning something for the future. Love is the most wonderful thing in the world but it can also be the most painful, right? Please keep us updated with everything that happens when you meet her. And remember we are all here for you. I can't wait until it does. And that is very correct. Love is painful, but I don't regret being in love one bit. And I will. I will probably start a new thread that will document my progress during the school year. And thank you. Glad you guys are here to help
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