first date from 1pm to 2 30am, and no phone call after 7 days.. wtf?

[Sw3etdev1L]

that's it.... and I have him in my facebook. I have seen him online, and he doesn't even say hi.

 

yesterday he did say hi to me, and I was like... I am fine how bout you? and he was like.. "great, have you missed me?".. I was like "nah I know arquitects are busy, so are nutritionists" and then told him, we'll talk later I have to leave, see yah : ) ..... i've gone into facebook again, he is online. I am online, not even HI!. I am so biting my nails right now. I did like him a lot I WANT HIIM TO CALL ME to go out

[Raderick]

He's not interested, move on with your life. Not much else should or needs to be said.

[Jilly Bean]

What kind of a first date was this that lasted 13 hours?

 

He's probably overwhelmed, since you had the equivalent of 4 dates in one.

 

Technically, he doesn't owe you a second date for another few weeks. lol

[JohnnyBlaze]

You told him that you were busy and didn't miss him. After what was a long (and hopefully fun) date, you basically said that you don't have time for him.

[somedude81]

Did you have sex on the first date?

[Sw3etdev1L]

No physical touching, a normal date.

[David.]

"You told him that you were busy and didn't miss him. After what was a long (and hopefully fun) date, you basically said that you don't have time for him. "

 

Agreed.

 

(PS: why doesn't the quotes button work?)

[David.]

OK, got it now. Ignore the previous post!

 

You told him that you were busy and didn't miss him. After what was a long (and hopefully fun) date, you basically said that you don't have time for him.

 

Agreed.

 

 

(PS: 10 character minimum)

Edited August 21, 2010 by David.

[Blade Runner]

nah I know arquitects are busy[/Quote]He was probably put off by your atrocious spelling of architect...And maybe the fact that you said you didn't miss him...even if you were joking.

 

In all seriousness, I'd give him a quick message and just casually see if he wants to meet up again soon...if he doesn't sort of it out and initiate some kind of contact then he's probably not that into you, and it would be time to move on as others have said. I don't understand all these women who sit around for a week or more and say "Omg why doesn't he call me!". We're in 2010. Call him!

 

By the way, that's a freakin' long date! What did you do?

Edited August 21, 2010 by Blade Runner

[Sw3etdev1L]

I am not from the US. My spelling is not correct of course.. if you'd speak two languages maybe you'd understand. ñ

 

He had a blast. that's why we were together for a day. And I don't agree with a girl searching out for the boy.. I know we are in other century but.. still , it's natural that men like to conquer females.. not females making the move, it looks desperate

[Sw3etdev1L]

The thing is .. we've been speaking in facebook for three months now, sometimes we do and sometimes we don't... I don't expect for him to be anxious to be going out with me or so.. But even if he didn't want o hang out with me or so.. yes, to say a Hi or something there..

I mean we were together for a day. that's the least thing you can do to a girl.. a guy can make that step... and more, days later say "hi, did you miss me?"... "Come on, how am I gonna miss you when I barely know you.. yes I did like you but.. I am not desperate, I am not falling for you yet, and yes, you have to behave good to me, at least say hi... I barely know you.. even if I had a blast.. yes, after a first date, I expect to have you at least as a friend saying hi to me."... if you guys don't take that iniciative, why should I mind?... I mean, I am a girl... even if you say we are in another stage of life shalalalala.... nature is nature... when girls go after guys, guys don't take them seriously, and the dinamics of a couple take another way... in which the woman becomes the conquerer and not the guy and I don't like that.... If a man doesn't call after three days, i rather keep on moving on.. why? because it's like a filter.. you filter the ones who are not really interested and move on with someone who does call you and show interest-

The longest someone has clalled me is two weeks.

And you know what? I rather have to wait for one week, or week and a half, than have a stalker all over me. At least it makes me feel interested, curious, I think about him.... I value it more. If he doesn't call and he is not interested... it's better because when you don't call you are sure that he is not interested in you.. You are not the one calling because you are insecure that he didn't call so you have to make the move, I mean.. If he hasn't call is because he has his own reasons.. I rather respect that.

The way I said things where said in a way that... I was ok with him not being in contact with him.. I am relaxed. I want him to call me, but if he doesn't... I am ok with it. I can move on, have someone else call me, and show interested in me.. that is why I don't like calling during dating.. I like to filter people who are not interested to leave the interested ones in my life.

[westrock]

"nah I know arquitects are busy, so are nutritionists" and then told him, we'll talk later I have to leave, see yah : )

I read your resonse as you not being interested.

 

Did you tell him that you had a good time on that date? Men want to know that otherwise if they think you did not have a good time, they will think you are not interested.

 

The way I said things where said in a way that... I was ok with him not being in contact with him.. I am relaxed. I want him to call me, but if he doesn't... I am ok with it. I can move on, have someone else call me, and show interested in me.. that is why I don't like calling during dating.. I like to filter people who are not interested to leave the interested ones in my life.

 

I think you are not ok with him not being in contact with you. Otherwise what is the purpose of your post?

[Blade Runner]

if you'd speak two languages maybe you'd understand. [/Quote]Hahaha. It was a joke. Take it easy. And for the record, I speak three languages and completely understand how easy it is to make errors and mistakes. Not like it matters. It was facebook. Lighten up. Touchy.

Edited August 22, 2010 by Blade Runner

[JohnnyBlaze]

Get in touch with him and set up another date. I think we pretty much all agree that your last comment to him gave the impression that you weren't interested in him, so he got the message not to call you again. If you want to see him again, you'll need to make the move.

[Tayla]

to aide the poster....I had a date that lasted 13 hours...

2 hours travel to the amusement park...the day was a blast. I mean what trouble can one get into at a park...So yes there are places and things to do on a first date that can be that time consuming...Laughing, convos and simply being kids for a day....

 

I do agree with the folks who are bringing to your attention the double message of he should call me but I will remain coy and dismissive.....to low key and the guy goes elsewhere....

 

I personally think its NOT at ALL desparate to be upfront with a fellow human being...even if its someone of interest. Speak up and be heard. If you want to be seen as an independent free thinking person then its one of the priviledges.

[D-Lish]

He's not interested enough- and that should be enough for you to move on.

 

I'd never wait 2 weeks for a guy to call me and consent to going out with him again and neither should you.

[Sw3etdev1L]

so ok, I've freed myself....

I was like.. I got into facebook; he was online. I don't know if he is present or not.. but I told him..." hey how are you?.. I am sorry I went out off facebook so fast but I had to go with a friend for a coffee and it was running late.... and yes i did miss you a little"..

it was hard eh....

 

now that I feel relieved, i can move on. it's easy how after you express yourself , show interest or whatever, you put yourself out there, do as you feel and think right at the moment.. then leave it to them... it just feels relief

[JohnnyBlaze]

Good for you! Now he knows you're interested; it's up to him to make the next move.