doing nc wish me luck

[grace0411]

I don't know if anyone will read this but I just feel like ranting. I had been dating my ex now (hard to think of it like that) for almost 4 years (4 in nov) and we were friends before that. we loved each other and one day we got in an argument and he asked for space. i became nervous and didn't let him have it, he was my first boyfriend and i knew later and told him that i was sorry and that i should've let him have it. i went to new york a few weeks ago and before i left he gave me money to buy him things and he told me to buy myself something with the money he gave me so i figured things were okay.

while i was there we spoke on msn and he told me things like he thoughts he loved me less and less everyday he wouldn't mind if i didn't come back and he didn't miss me when i was gone. needless to say i was unhappy, i told him that if he wanted to be that way then i didn't wanna be with him. he told me he wanted to try and fix things but he feels indifferent, when i told him where to go he begged me not to say things in the heat of the moment, he needed space and he would see how he felt.

so i came back Sunday and he broke up with me. he wrote me an 11 page letter and read it with me. i felt like my world was falling around me. he told me he wished he could continue and i was great but he couldn't i was holding him back and seeing me upset didn't bother me. i didn't beg but i tried to bring up ideas of what we could do to fix things but he didn't wanna hear it. he said we could be friends and that (btw) he still had presents at his house for me and he was wondering when he should give them to me. he wanted to remain friends. i had dressed up for him and was mad that he hadn't noticed and he said he had, and that he was kinda horny and wanted to know if i wanted to find someplace to do something. i denied, knowing that if i did neither of us would respect me. i started to cry and he hugged me and kissed my forehead and said maybe we could try again in the future. when i tried to contact him in a text he did get angry and told me to back off. i talked to our youth pastor who agreed to speak to us together. my ex had mention to speaking to people about our relationship but he never spoke to me which is what bothered me. after we spoke to our youth pastor my ex eventually said that my crying didn't effect me but soon enough he said it was fun, maybe we'd do this again in a month and walked out, leaving me crying.

I know he's going through some things at home and he said a lot of hurtful things to me, things that don't make sense about me and i am doing the nc thing. it's been 4 days and i DON'T wanna call him. just him walking out on me crying was a clear message. I don't know if he'll wanna try again in a month but i would like him as a friend when the smoke clears... i think. when you come out of a relationship it's easier to see the bigger picture and the bigger picture isn't very good for me. I feel bad for him, knowing he's going to have problems without me, at the same time i'm not his mother... I think I'm equally confused

[lizzy22w]

Honey, I am in the same kind of situation. I started nc 9 days ago to a guy who started out good, and is now a player of emotions. He would tell me I was his first priority, and that he could see himself spending the rest of his life with me (we have not been "official" since February, and he was saying all this stuff recently). Well he has always hidden things, lied about things...even to his family. He even hid our relationship from them. Well...He would flip flop on his emotions towards me, tell me I was psycho because I would not believe him, tell me about all the girls that would hit on him, tell me tell me tell me....when his actions spoke differently from the nice things coming from his mouth. He would never call me back when he said he would, he would break promises, and would cancel dates the day of to do something else, and I quote, that "[he] wants to do".

 

Well...we hung out one day and he had to take a shower, so I decided to do something that I usually think is psycho, but I wanted the truth...I checked his phone. Women were sending him nude photos..women who were married! He was calling them sweetheart, darling, gorgeous, and told me that they didn't mean anything. I asked him if he liked it, he said no...but one of the texts he sent them said that he did. yeah I feel a little psycho for going through his phone, but I was tired of being lied to, and I had to find out before I invested anymore time in the dousche.

Well i cut him off 9 days ago, and he tried to call me 5 days ago, but I didn't answer. he did not apologize for lying to me at all on the voicemail, but just told me that he had seen me out, and that it was good to see me (trying to get me to talk). I am so tired of the games. There is more to the whole story that would surprise you, but I am so tired of typing.

 

My point is. We can do this! If you need someone to talk to, then send me a message. No more *******s stringing us along! Rooting for you! <3 ^_^

 

PS. This stuff has been going on for a year. *gags*

[Von]

Ya when someone is done, they're done. Theres no convincing them no matter how hard you try or who you talk to. That dude is done. That's it. He's also probably immature and doesn't know what he wants too. Every guy goes through this. It's just a part of life.

 

Just get over it and move on to a better man.