ragegnst Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 OK so this may not be write for this area but here goes. A couple of years ago I met a girl in a college class we were taking, I though she was fabulous from the get go. We never talked a lot in class but ended up chatting it up a bit towards the end. She tells me sh has a live in BF but they are drifting apart. Ok cool no big but then she decides she wants to go do something sometime. We go out to dinner had fun. Next start a big texting emailing thing. She ends up stying with me for a night after this has been going on several months. So moving forward I sort of gave an ultimatum after about 9 months or so, she tried to get the other guy to leave but always feels too guilty, or so she says. This goes on for about two years and I finally got frustrated with the whole thing. Secretly I wanted her to get caught, but either her live in is an idiot, naive or both. We have even taken an overnight trip together, So now I try to call it quits but it is not working. My next thought is to expose the whole thing but that is not in my character. She said we can hang still but she is not going anywhere. Her big issue is age, I am 16 years older. I am justing wanting thoughts from the forum thanks!
Darth Vader Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 OK so this may not be write for this area but here goes. A couple of years ago I met a girl in a college class we were taking, I though she was fabulous from the get go. We never talked a lot in class but ended up chatting it up a bit towards the end. She tells me sh has a live in BF but they are drifting apart. Ok cool no big but then she decides she wants to go do something sometime. We go out to dinner had fun. Next start a big texting emailing thing. She ends up stying with me for a night after this has been going on several months. So moving forward I sort of gave an ultimatum after about 9 months or so, she tried to get the other guy to leave but always feels too guilty, or so she says. This goes on for about two years and I finally got frustrated with the whole thing. Secretly I wanted her to get caught, but either her live in is an idiot, naive or both. We have even taken an overnight trip together, So now I try to call it quits but it is not working. My next thought is to expose the whole thing but that is not in my character. She said we can hang still but she is not going anywhere. Her big issue is age, I am 16 years older. I am justing wanting thoughts from the forum thanks! Another BIG issue may be, that she's married! Have you thought of how much of a liar and a whore she is? Get yourself checked for STDs, because it's likely she's done this before, time to lose the chick!
cavedweller Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Several years ago I had the same problem...I told her to get rid of the Sun-of-Beach or I will..She stated she could not do that.. What did I do?--I walked out of the door and never looked back... You may want to do the same.. my 2 cents
Darth Vader Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Several years ago I had the same problem...I told her to get rid of the Sun-of-Beach or I will..She stated she could not do that.. What did I do?--I walked out of the door and never looked back... You may want to do the same.. my 2 cents Why did you leave, you should've kicked her out! Unless it was her house!
Author ragegnst Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 did you guys ever get found out/??
spriggig Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Her husband isn't an idiot or naive, he simply loves and trusts his wife. She's lying to both of you--how stupid and naive will you feel when you finally figure this out?
Author ragegnst Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 they are not married just live together I guess the big problem is i fell in loev with her. I know what you guys are saying is correect it is just difficult. I was just thinking if I exposed the whole thing that would force someones hand, but now I guess maybe that is not a great idea.
Dexter Morgan Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Secretly I wanted her to get caught, but either her live in is an idiot, naive or both. so let me get this straight....you are messing around with a cheater and a liar......but its her live in thats the idiot? We have even taken an overnight trip together, So now I try to call it quits but it is not working. My next thought is to expose the whole thing but that is not in my character. but messing around with someone elses committed partner is? dude, the actions in which you are engaging with her are far worse than any idea of exposing her. You can't say thats not your character as if you are this scrupulous being....but then be messing around with a cheater. How bout this....how bout finding a decent girl?
Author ragegnst Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 unfortunately is hard to help who ya love , plus she said many times she was going to leave, but you are right i know. I am not going to say "it just happened" I am going to say early on she said she was leaving, wanted to be with me many many times.
michelangelo Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 (edited) My wife was lying cheat just like this woman is. Don't trivialize the "relationship" that bf has with her just because they are not married. He likely thinks he is in a committed relationship. Of course he is not, you are helping her screw things up with him. Stop enabling a cheater. Find an available woman. Do you really want to be second chair with a liar and a cheat? Get tested for STDs, she will infect you. Edited August 23, 2010 by michelangelo
Author ragegnst Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 I guess that can be seen as such, I was just told many times that she was leaving but now I can see I was used
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 She ends up stying with me for a night after this has been going on several months I'm sorry I don't understand, did you guys have sex or not?
Author ragegnst Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 we had sex, the other poster was suggesting that even if she says otherwise, she is having sex with her live in too
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 we had sex, the other poster was suggesting that even if she says otherwise, she is having sex with her live in too Well, time to varnish that notch on your bedpost and move on sir. I know she's much younger and probably tantalizing in every way but this one is not going anywhere good. It can only get worse. Especially given the havoc with the live in BF you are contributing to.
Author ragegnst Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 I am aware is just early on she said she was giving to leave and told me she loved me, hard to find that "one" this is just my current struggle
Darth Vader Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 I am aware is just early on she said she was giving to leave and told me she loved me, hard to find that "one" this is just my current struggle Translation : "I just haven't had enough orgasmic sex with her, yet. I know, If I make her orgasm the most and best, I'll get her"! OH, PLEASE! Apparently the sex must be that good and/or he finds her really hot! Have you thought of phoning this other guy and letting him know that his girl's riding you? At least cut the other guy a break before he ends up marrying that, whatever?!
Author ragegnst Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 well the sex was damn good of course but it was more to that as I am over 40 and ready to pretend I am an adult:laugh: so that is where I thought were headed when she said all this stuff early on. I have thought of exposing this to her dude, problem is I do not know who he is, what he does or even what looks like. Would have to be something sinister like passing it through some one else or note on car type thing, only thing I know is where they live but never been.
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