Author AlwaysConflicted Posted August 21, 2010 Author Posted August 21, 2010 I agree with you. I keep thinking that by her even texting me, it was her way of creating an opening for me. And all I said was "You're welcome". I suppose I could have been a bit more energetic in my response. I'm thinking that she didn't text me back, because my response was terse. I could be wrong. It's entirely possible she was just being polite since I did send her something she wanted. Although, most of me feels that my terse response was fine...It's really up to her to send the next text saying "so how's everything?" It's kind of weird for me to ask her how she's doing, when she ripped my heart out.
bboy Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I agree with you. I keep thinking that by her even texting me, it was her way of creating an opening for me. And all I said was "You're welcome". I suppose I could have been a bit more energetic in my response. I'm thinking that she didn't text me back, because my response was terse. I could be wrong. It's entirely possible she was just being polite since I did send her something she wanted. Although, most of me feels that my terse response was fine...It's really up to her to send the next text saying "so how's everything?" It's kind of weird for me to ask her how she's doing, when she ripped my heart out. You responded in the best way. Polite, short and nothing more personal to it. It was the best answer anyway and probably she got a little bit disappointed that you didn't write more. Trust me, she wanted more..
9Lives Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 its still her move. she left u..its her move. don't kid yourslf.
lullaby Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I guess my concern is that she's not really the type to ask for me back. She's traditional and expects the man to come after her. Although I wonder if that applies to a breakup. Regardless, it seems interesting to me that she chose to text me. I deleted her phone number, but she never deleted mine. I actually didn't even recognize the number, but knew it was her from the message. Why would you keep an ex's number in your phone? (She dumped me) Well at least I like my response of "You're welcome" because it comes off as very nonchalant. Why would an ex still have a folder on his mailbox with my name? why would an ex still have PICTURES of you on his cellphone????? You did good. Of course you were expecting some response from her, but your answer was polite and proper.
IfiKnewThen Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 i think you did good too. but i cant also help sitting here thinking..it would have been good if you didnt even say youre welcome. seriously. i kinda like the mysterious message that sends.... just my opinion. i know know where you were at. we all do
Username37 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 and just a ps. i enjoyed reading this quote: "Let me ruin your life, let me break your heart, then I'll ask you why we can't be friends. Let me rip your world into little pieces, let me destroy who you thought you were, and then I'll ask if we can be friends." <---priceless. Hahaha my new siggy!
IfiKnewThen Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 yeah get this. he said why cant we just be friends? so i called him out on it and finally said ok. and he hasnt shown himself to be a friend at all. all of his promises broken...about still making time to play our online game together etc. or watch our netflix movie thats been sitting here for over a month. we both rented the same movie and havent seen it yet..as he said he wanted to. blah blah blah. so not only do they say lets be friends...but they dont even treat you like one. so its another ADDED form of ripping your heart out how lovely..
IfiKnewThen Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 oops and this was a long distance relationship ..so how difficult can saying hello once and a while or playing our game together once in a while be. yeah he's a great friend alright... smirking:o
Author AlwaysConflicted Posted August 21, 2010 Author Posted August 21, 2010 You responded in the best way. Polite, short and nothing more personal to it. It was the best answer anyway and probably she got a little bit disappointed that you didn't write more. Trust me, she wanted more.. Thank you. I bet you're right, she probably did want to know more. After all, our last contact was 3 months ago and the final line of her email was "Wouldn't mind touching base every now and again". I actually deleted it and never responded. its still her move. she left u..its her move. don't kid yourslf. I know you're right I guess I assume that some people need a little push. But maybe that's me trying to rationalize more contact. i think you did good too. but i cant also help sitting here thinking..it would have been good if you didnt even say youre welcome. seriously. i kinda like the mysterious message that sends.... just my opinion. i know know where you were at. we all do I see your point, but that's too hard for me. My 2 word response does a similar thing. It's polite, but I reveal absolutely nothing about my current life. She's in the dark unless she decides to reach out. I was kind of surprised by that text message. I was expecting an email since it's a much more distant form of communication and that's how we handled our breakup conversations. Like what's the mindset there..."Oh he sent me my skates, let me send him a text to thank him". It's strange to think about it.
lullaby Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I agree with you. I keep thinking that by her even texting me, it was her way of creating an opening for me. And all I said was "You're welcome". I suppose I could have been a bit more energetic in my response. I'm thinking that she didn't text me back, because my response was terse. I could be wrong. It's entirely possible she was just being polite since I did send her something she wanted. Although, most of me feels that my terse response was fine...It's really up to her to send the next text saying "so how's everything?" It's kind of weird for me to ask her how she's doing, when she ripped my heart out. You're right. It was her way of opening to you but she could have sent 'how are you?' and she didn't. I'm a believer of second chances but both have to be willing to work on it and actually, the dumper must put its all into making it work, if not, it's not worth it. I've learned that by now. Trust me. If she wanted to see you, she would ask for it. I'm sorry you're hurting but at least you're not getting your hopes up for her. Think about that and how good you handled the situation. Think about what you want and feel, not what she may be expecting, it's her problem, not yours.
Author AlwaysConflicted Posted August 21, 2010 Author Posted August 21, 2010 You're right. It was her way of opening to you but she could have sent 'how are you?' and she didn't. I'm a believer of second chances but both have to be willing to work on it and actually, the dumper must put its all into making it work, if not, it's not worth it. I've learned that by now. Trust me. If she wanted to see you, she would ask for it. I'm sorry you're hurting but at least you're not getting your hopes up for her. Think about that and how good you handled the situation. Think about what you want and feel, not what she may be expecting, it's her problem, not yours. Thank you. I agree with you. If she really had interest in seeing me or talking to me more she probably would have sent a follow up text to my "you're welcome". Something to the effect of: How are you? But she didn't. I doubt my brief yet polite response would dissuade her from trying to talk to me more. It's a bummer because I still like her.
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