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I told him "If you weren't willing to be with me now, why the hell do you think I would change whatever my life is like years from now to be with you?"

 

 

I love this, TigerCub. I think us OWs/OMs are truly free when we can embrace this attitude. I tell myself this every single day, and try to believe it. It's so right.

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I love this, TigerCub. I think us OWs/OMs are truly free when we can embrace this attitude. I tell myself this every single day, and try to believe it. It's so right.

 

Thanks OM1 :)

 

It is that attitude that's made it easier to be able to cut him off.

I do have feelings for him, but I get asked out a lot by other people so I'm not gonna waste my time with him. He's been cut off for a little while now.

 

He made his choices (no one put a gun to his head and made him have 2 children with a woman he knows he doesn't want to be with)

 

so whatever...let him do his thing. Cuz I certainly am doing mine, and I refuse to sacrifice more for him than he's willing to sacrifice for me.

 

Stay strong and you too hopefully will see a way out of your drama :)

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I love this, TigerCub. I think us OWs/OMs are truly free when we can embrace this attitude. I tell myself this every single day, and try to believe it. It's so right.
And I actually said this to my xMW. Again you have to really believe that and embrace it.
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I don't agree. I think that where the BS dumps the WS, the WS and AP are less likely to end up together - although they may land up together for a while in the immediate aftermath of the D. The WS will not have chosen the AP, and the AP would resent being a default option, and so that R is not destined to last in the long run.

 

Where the WS dumps the BS and chooses to be with the AP, because the WS has chosen, the R has a far better chance of long-term survival IMO and IME.

 

I see what you are saying, OWoman. In my M both of us equally want out of the M. I guess the line gets blurred when both spouses want out of a M, although for differing reasons.

 

I could see my StbxW with her MM as she wants out and that is HER decision...not sure if her MM want out of his M:)

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