Buccaneer55 Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Well yesterday me and my ex who I've only been NC for 3 days ended up having to see each other b/c of something that had happened. The entire last month of me talking to her and letting her string me along all she ever said was that we would never get back together. Well we talked a little bit about it yesterday after 3 days of NC and I asked her if she was going to consider and this time she said we'll see. It's not a yes but it's also not a no, seems like she might be starting to think about it already. Finally after she left, I received a text from her about 20 minutes later saying "Thanks for talking to me today", so I'm really starting to believe she doesn't like not having me there, and maybe she's actually taking me serious. What do you think? Also I'm sticking to NC, just because yesterday looked good doesn't mean I'm going to be talking to her unless she comes around to us getting back together.
Sambo Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 She has tortured you emotionally. Did you deserve that ? If you feel like you deserved what she's done then maybe you feel like it was a fair deal and you can think about getting back together. Ask yourself one question: Am I the man I want to be ?
leftfield Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Finally after she left, I received a text from her about 20 minutes later saying "Thanks for talking to me today", so I'm really starting to believe she doesn't like not having me there, and maybe she's actually taking me serious. What do you think? Also I'm sticking to NC, just because yesterday looked good doesn't mean I'm going to be talking to her unless she comes around to us getting back together. I think you might be looking for positives. Definitely stick to your NC as you planned and give it some time. "Thanks for talking to me today" is a VERY long way from "I've made a terrible mistake, I want you back, please forgive me". I began analysing everything my ex said looking for positives and believe me it can come back to bite you, because just when you think she's coming around she will say something (perhaps innocently from her perspective) that will rip your heart out again. Don't take anything (especially in a text) to heart, it might not be what was intended.
edgeofdarkness Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Well yesterday me and my ex who I've only been NC for 3 days ended up having to see each other b/c of something that had happened. The entire last month of me talking to her and letting her string me along all she ever said was that we would never get back together. red flag number one can you believe anything that comes out of her mouth now? Well we talked a little bit about it yesterday after 3 days of NC and I asked her if she was going to consider and this time she said we'll see. It's not a yes but it's also not a no, seems like she might be starting to think about it already. she says well see, so hear this, -I might consider it until something better comes along, i broke up with you bcos i didnt want to b with u anymore, but youd make a handy safe place to go to, until i find someone else and then ill just say, sorry bud we tried but it just isnt working, adios! Finally after she left, I received a text from her about 20 minutes later saying "Thanks for talking to me today", so I'm really starting to believe she doesn't like not having me there, and maybe she's actually taking me serious. What do you think? thanks for talking to me today means thanks for making me feell like i didnt do anything too bad by dumping you and your still willing to be a friend which means i dont have to feel so guilty for making you fee like crap and treating you like crap. i can do what i like with you bcos youve been friendzoned. is what that means, dude. Also I'm sticking to NC, just because yesterday looked good doesn't mean I'm going to be talking to her unless she comes around to us getting back together. go strict total nc and stay strict total nc until you get the please please have me back i am so sorry message, in person. texts are a safe way of keeping your distance and making it all impersonal if I dont have to look at you i dont have to face the truth that im a bitch.
whatadeer26 Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Buddy, reading your post gave me the chills. It is extremly similar to what my ex put me through. After she broke up with me I went NC for the first 3 day (before I found this site). She would text me and reel me right back in. I've come to the conclusion she wanted to string me alone for her own selfish needs. Ease her guilt and feed her ego. I wish I just stuck to NC from the very start I'd either be with her now or in a better place emotionally. My advice is that she was too chicken to say she doesn't want to be with you to your face. My ex was exactly the same way. Do yourself a favor and please stay NC until you get a bigger sign. She was jsut trying to spare your feelings.
Sambo Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 go strict total nc and stay strict total nc until you get the please please have me back i am so sorry message, in person. texts are a safe way of keeping your distance and making it all impersonal if I dont have to look at you i dont have to face the truth that im a bitch. Amen to that !
Author Buccaneer55 Posted August 20, 2010 Author Posted August 20, 2010 Thanks for the advice. I did actually have to see her and we were face to face yesterday. That text she sent me was after wards, so it wasn't like that was the only communication. One of my friends had had lunch with her yesterday too, and said she just seemed unhappy in general. I completely agree with keeping NC with her until she decides she wants to talk about me and her actually getting back together, I guess I was just hoping this might be a small step in that direction.
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