Notifying the in-laws of my STBXW affair and divorce filing

[drewsmom]

Blood is thicker than water, I have a 6 yr old son, he is the first grandchild on husbands side, And I was very close to the entire family, not one of them called when he was sick for 2 weeks, my father in law has a beautiful inground pool which he knows my son loved to go in, never once has he called to say he would pick him up to swim. my stbx lives in an ajacent house and takes son there fridays over nite and they dont see my son at all. I dont even care about myself but really hes your first grandchild. and stbx mother was here all the time, my son was so close to her and now if i as if grammy went to dinner with him he says i dont want grammie to come. its sad. I dont have my parents they passed away when i was in my 20s. so his parents are all he has for grandparents, luckily I have 6 siblings and they adore my son. husbands family all of them are so selfcentered its sickning, but my son wont want for anything especially love. I get that that is there son or in your case their daughter but whats right is right, I was brought up to say it like it is, you still love your child but they are wrong and its not only them in the picture its another person and children that are hurt by their actions.

[Butterflair]

I would say not to tell the parents before the spouse. Let it go through as planned and discuss it with them afterwards. It's very slim that a parent will chose over their own child. If they are honorable people, they will sign for you after the papers are served.