tornandmarried Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 im sure you all remember my first post, married a cheater....some new developments going on....i got divorce papers written up and i talked to her about it, just to make sure she was willing to sign before i spent 150$ to file....she got angry and wanted me to return her cellphone (which she gave me months ago so we could keep in touch) i drop it off and left and she and the OM came to my friends house looking for me and asked me to spend the night and work on being friends, on the way to her house she kissed him right in front of me, i walked away immediatly...i cut off contact for a week while she was begging me to talk to her..ignored her completely...i gave in and decided to talk to her and now she wants "a second chance" went to see her and she was staring at me like a hawk and giving me stuff.......she says shes getting sick of the OM but is having trouble getting rid of him.....she also told me she might be pregnant and not sure who the father is....the marriage is still unconsumated and im still planing to file for divorce right away...im wondering, should i file no fault or hire a lawyer and file a fault divorce? should i just file quickly before the baby is born? this has to be one of the worst marriage situations is the history of the world, after only 2 months...im pretty scared, hurt and confused and want to protect myself legaly best i can
witabix Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I don't know anything about the legalities here. Whatever you do it quick, get the hell away from her, faster the better. Wait to find out who the father is, can i even be you?
cookie2 Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 If the marriage is unconsummated, can't you get an annulment? You can in UK law.
Author tornandmarried Posted August 20, 2010 Author Posted August 20, 2010 theres a slight possability it could be mine, we havent had sex much 2 months before we got married, 4 times.....crazy situation tho, seems like she left me for another guy and somehow we got married in the middle of it..i wonder if she knew she was pregnant and married me just to try to get child support off me to help them raise it....but she doesnt seem entirely insincere about it tho, she tells me all the time how sorry she is and she thinks about it everyday and it makes her feel like *****...she said im the first boyfriend she ever had that didnt treat her like she was a whore....i have a feeling she wont take divorce too kindly... she confessed to cheating on me with 3 other guys throughout the relationship (total of 5 guys) and she was kissing my best friend behind my back....weird thing is when we first met she gave me a note and on the bottom it said, i promise ill never lie, cheat or hurt you in anyway and it was a promise i took with confidence
Chrome Barracuda Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Dude! LET'S BE REAL! IT'S NOT YOURS!!! SHE'S CHEATED WITH 5 MEN + BEHIND YOUR BACK AND YOUR CONSIDERING, STAYING? the time for being naive is over my friend, time to take action, 180 and ignore her forever. please get this divorce done, expose the affair and get it no fault. i wouldnt even go to trial over a woman like this. Let me ask did you know of the cheating beforehand. how can you even be cool with the thought of her kissing another man right in front of you, that's beyond disrespectful! tell her adios!!!! I would have kicked his ass and kicked her ass for bonus too. Annull the marriage your better off and RUN away as quickly as you can.
witabix Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Check out that slight possibility, if the child is yours then you have a different set of priorities. The child is innocent, nothing to do with all the crap that is going on. If the baby is yours, well, as I said another set of priorities. If, on the other it is not, print our Barracudas post and nail it to your forehead.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I would file for divorce, and tell her that you will arrange a DNA test through your lawyer when it is possible to test. I would not speak to her in any way, shape or form until you know 100% whether or not you are the father. If you are the father, arrange to pay child support and get visitation. I would not have any sort of relationship with her at all, regardless of whether you are this child's father or not.
Author tornandmarried Posted August 20, 2010 Author Posted August 20, 2010 NO, im not considering staying married....im happy she wants me back but im filing for divorce immediatly..ive been working on it for the past month waiting on each step to come in the mail...my feelings for her are diminishing more and more each day...i even joke about it with my friends now....i just cant get over her posting pics of her kissing that guy on her myspace, wearing her wedding dress!!! im not sure why shes acting all crazy like this, like shes trying to hurt me on purpose for revenge or something...but i never did anything wrong to her, except maybe leave her home alone alot while i went out doing stuff, being a busy artist and musician, and not once did she ever see my band play or see my art gallery, even though i asked her a million times to come with me....and to answer your question, i knew about the 2 guys she cheated with 2 months before we got married, she apolagized and promised to change so i took a leap of faith and married her...after i mentioned divorce she came clean about the rest....im a fool for her but im not an idiot....i think really i was so hurt by it i was paralized and woulda done anything to reconcile...but marriage made me see things more clearly...do i really wanna put up with lying and cheating the rest of my life?
You Go Girl Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 , i knew about the 2 guys she cheated with 2 months before we got married, she apolagized and promised to change so i took a leap of faith and married her...after i mentioned divorce she came clean about the rest....im a fool for her but im not an idiot....i think really i was so hurt by it i was paralized and woulda done anything to reconcile...but marriage made me see things more clearly...do i really wanna put up with lying and cheating the rest of my life? Listen, I'm not trying to be mean here. I'm trying to help you see the truth. You are being idiotic if you marry someone who cheated on you twice before you even married. You need to raise your standards of what is acceptable. If you don't, the type of women who will burn you like this are going to be in your future as well as your past/present. I'd like to help you save yourself from such grief in the future.
Author tornandmarried Posted August 20, 2010 Author Posted August 20, 2010 yeah i understand.....she did me so wrong but i only have myself to blame for getting married....im definatly never going to settle again, i know 3 girls trying to get with me after my relationship crashed but im not jumping into any relationships unless its with someone i already know, trust and care about
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