What is she try to say?

[bbguy]

I am looking for some help here.

I'm sorta with this girl, we started out as just friends and ended up being friends with benifits and I was compleatly ok with it. When ever one of us wanted to get laid we would just call eachother up and I would go over to her place take care of business and then go home. But as time went on we started going on what most people would call dates and getting more serious, and I would no longer go home at night but would stay there.

The problem now is that after this went on for a little while I said something about it and she told me it was nothing more than friends with benifits and I agreed to keep it that way. But just the other day we went out for a few drinks and went back to my place and she told me that she loved me, and asked why I didn't love her. When I could not come up with a response to her question she insisted that it was time for her to go home.

Since then we have hardly spoken to each other. I cannot say that I do love her but I do have some sort of feelings for her, and I'm not sure how I should go about addressing this.

Any ideas?

[Lorelai]

Yowch, talk about mixed messages.

 

Do you think the reason you can't call what you feel "love" is because you weren't allowing yourself to see it as anything more than FWB after she reaffirmed the status as FWB, or do you think if you were going to fall in love you already would have?

 

I'd take a break honestly from things for a minute regardless, and do some thinking. If she's in love, and you're not and don't think you'll ever be, it's completely unfair for the relationship to continue. If you think there's a chance, that maybe you were sitting on your feelings because of her previous statement that it was just FWB, if I were you I'd still take some time out to examine how I felt. Then again, I'm a chick, we spend a lot of time trying to figure out our emotions.

 

Either way, it's looking like this FWB arrangement is coming to an end. Whether it becomes more, or whether you will just try to salvage the friendship, I don't know what you will choose... but I wish you the best of luck.

[Hopeful30]

If you don't see her as a potential girlfriend, then stop the whole "friends with benefits" thing. You will just hurt her. Tell her you don't feel the same and discontinue what you guys are doing now.

 

If you like her back, then start dating and becoming official. At this point though I don't think you should because she has strong feelings for you, and you don't. I don't think its a good idea.

[bobdole]

What are you try to say?