xx.Kael.xx Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Not sure on this, but is it a myth that women are like cats? In the sense they'll only pay attention to you unless you *ignore* them?...seems like it with the ex...she broke NC s couple times..
skydiveaddict Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Not sure on this, but is it a myth that women are like cats? In the sense they'll only pay attention to you unless you *ignore* them?...seems like it with the ex...she broke NC s couple times.. Yes I find this to be true. Don't respond back. Charge forward.
Gfkr2 Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 My experience is women crave attention and affection kind of like a puppy. Meet a womans's emotional needs and you'll never worry about her loyalty again.
Lost Fish Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 There is some truth to this. In my experience, and a lot of what I've read is that women are more likely to be attracted to a strong, independent man, so part of this is being totally ok with yourself - by yourself. A confident person will not plead or beg or cling or push to be with another person - and this is what can generate attraction. As far as your ex goes, she is responding to your complete change in energy - even though internally you may be struggling with the no contact, outwardly you portray someone who is taking time to focus on themselves. Similarly, it is like that change in energy guys experience when they first commit to their significant other - suddenly it seems like women that usually would barely offer a passing glance are now noticing them. But the change is all internal - a change of focus and attitude that appears to generate external results, but really it how one carries themselves that generates the change in energy around them. I hope this made sense. I think your observation is correct though. If she is breaking NC though, don't sell yourself short unless she is really willing to work on whatever it was that broke you two up in the first place - otherwise you both will slip into the same destructive pattern.
hurt and devastated Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 From my experiences, it seems like they can be both. They for the most part can be independant and only seek attention when they want it. However, they also can be like puppies and crave attention constantly. I think it depends on the woman. I have known women that have acted like either one. The woman that's eventually going to be my ex-wife was a puppy that tried to act like a cat, and the puppy in her decided to seek attention from someone else, while she was the cat around me.
Thorgs Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Mine hasn't tried contacting me once. So I'm not sure it's entirely accurate.
carhill Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I ignored stbx and she went away. Works for me, and generally has. This perhaps is an indicator of an issue with my people-picker
spriggig Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 People in general, but women in romance more so, want what they can't have. You've got about 18 to 36 months in the honeymoon phase--you can screw up pretty badly during this time and she'll forgive you. After the honeymoon phase, when the butterflies leave, the guy has to walk a careful line between "bad boy" and "nice guy". Slip too far to either extreme and the woman bolts, often with out ever letting on that there was a problem. [url=http://www.oxytocin.org/oxytoc/love-science.html][/url]http://www.oxytocin.org/oxytoc/love-science.html
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