xx.Kael.xx Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I still don't get why she would contact me *just to check up* I mean, SHE left ME. Just let me move on, all she did was open the wounds...is there a hidden meaning to this? Come on...there must be a REAL reason why she messaged me other than seeing how my life is without her...and ontop of that, she sends this after the first. * I shouldn't have sent that msg, ill let you get on with your life bye* Did I mention I'm only working 2 days next week? Shoot me...please. this is too much...
Username37 Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I still don't get why she would contact me *just to check up* I mean, SHE left ME. Just let me move on, all she did was open the wounds...is there a hidden meaning to this? Come on...there must be a REAL reason why she messaged me other than seeing how my life is without her...and ontop of that, she sends this after the first. * I shouldn't have sent that msg, ill let you get on with your life bye* Did I mention I'm only working 2 days next week? Shoot me...please. this is too much... Again man, she's seeing if she got a hook on you. No replies. In fact, cut contact with her. This is very selfish of her. Or...you can tell her to stop contacting you. tell her you don't want to talk and that you need to recover. Good luck to you budd
Thorgs Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Well, if you think that's bad, I have 2 1/2 weeks off before I go back to work Just ignore it. If she wants you back that badly, she'll make it known one way or another.
LostInTurn Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I think I've learned. They say things that will hurt us after they've hurt us enough. I would ignore. I'm an advocate for blocking! That's what seems to work for me... I'm weak and cave.
hurt and devastated Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 (edited) It took me a while to realise that her checking up on me was more than likely giving herself a boost while it was making me hurt worse. I just answered "fine" a couple of times and she quit asking. Apparenty that was the wrong answer. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing anything. If she sends any more, just interpret them as her wanting to know how miserable you are without her. Edited August 20, 2010 by hurt and devastated
LostInTurn Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 It took me a while to realise that her checking up on me was more than likely giving herself a boost while it was making me hurt worse. I just answered "fine" a couple of times and she quit asking. Apparenty that was the wrong answer. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing anything. If she sends any more, just interpret them as her wanting to know how miserable you are without her. We need to get through this. We lived without them in our lives once and were happy, we can do it again. Each of us have such amazing hearts. We deserve happiness. No one should make us feel badly.
Nappeal Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 It looks like she was genuinely just checking in like a friend, but remembered the boundries. Sorry, cuz I'm sure it messed you up, but don't put too much stock in it. Get outside w your time off! Sometimes I feel my best, and I hear my thoughts the clearest, when I'm outside and just listening to nothing.
TheUnthoughtKnown Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Sounds to me like she's mainly trying to keep in contact with you. Maybe she's trying to keep that hook in you, maybe not. My ex texted me a month after the break up and asked to meet and chat. I wanted to get back together, but she wanted to meet and talk so things wouldn't be "awkward when we see each other" so I declined and went NC. The hardest thing I've done. Brother, you don't need the hassle. Stay NC and keep moving onwards and upwards. Like LostInTurn said, we're all good people, we have amazing hearts. Each of us is on this site because we've lost someone we loved and we're having a hard time coping. That shows we cared and we loved. We all need to move on, there's so much beauty in the world and we all fixate on one person, we'll miss it!
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