newguyhere Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I am a man. I do what many would call manly things. I the person everyone goes to for help to build, destroy or fix something. Everyone seems to depend on me. I enjoy working with my hands very much. I take pride in my knowledge and abilities. I enjoy holding my woman tight in my arms and kissing her gently. When she is in my arms, she has nothing to fear. She is safe. But sometimes, I just want to be held. I want to grab a blanket, my woman, and cuddle on the couch watching disney cartoons. I want to feel her small fingers stroking my chest. I want to hold her from behind and rub her belly. I want to interlace my fingers with hers. I want to hold her face in my hands. I just find it hard to feel human when I have nobody to be human with.
LostInTurn Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 OK, and you have just given me the reassurance I have been looking for. It does exist. There are other men in this world who will do the things I miss. Hopefully, the next one is honest and consistent. But the small things, like you mentioned... it's nice to know it could happen again. Thank you. Could you tell us more about your story?
hurt and devastated Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 There are more of us out there than you think. It's nice to have tender moments, and to feel a woman's soothing touch, and I miss that terribly.
Username37 Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I miss the comfort of my ex too. I know how you feel. A quick fling cannot replace the initimacy between me and my ex. But it worked for her. ****ing bitch.
nokturn Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I'm right there with you guys. I had a hell of a lonely night, thinking and wishing a lot of things. Sure glad I wasn't alone on feeling like this today.. I can't help but think of what she's doing and if she's having fun as I type this.
Username37 Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I'm right there with you guys. I had a hell of a lonely night, thinking and wishing a lot of things. Sure glad I wasn't alone on feeling like this today.. I can't help but think of what she's doing and if she's having fun as I type this. We all wish, regret, hope, and think. That's us dumpees for ya. And I know that my ex is having fun as I type on Loveshack (not saying that LS isn't fun). It's sad but true.
edgeofdarkness Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 so why youre not having fun too? your doing that to u not her. if your not having fun its not on her its u dude, so give up and unlock that door, u have the key but guess what theres no lock anyway.
LoveTruthChaos Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Oh yes, I've been missing intimacy incredibly the last couple of days. It doesn't help that my ex and I seem to have a psychic connection. See, when he's f*cking the girl he left me for, I can sense it...which makes me miserable. Seriously guys, be thankful you don't feel that pain Must be something in the stars that's making us all feel like this...
Thierro Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I must admit, you touched me there for a moment. I want people to feel safe and happy with me too. I want people to let go of their fears when they are around me, because I want to take care of everything. Sure I am overprotective sometimes. I know that you need to throw some people in an arena full of lions, facing their fears and conquer them on their own. But when things get too messy, I will help them out. I’ll tell them that you don’t kill the lions in a game of life and death. I tell them to work with the lions together. Both parties have been put there with different reasons. The lions look aggressive and growls your skin pale. But they are afraid. They just want to go home and be free. Everything has a reason and in most cases the reasoning behind a scary looking beast its horrible actions is anxiety. People can do some horrible things, but when you look closer, the reasoning behind their deeds may shock you. Never fight; you will lose. Don’t peddle against the current. Peddle with it, anticipate on the rough waters. Use them to your advantages; work together and find your way out. Grow stronger and better. But when I know that everyone has fallen asleep and don’t feel the fear that kept them awake anymore, I want a girl in my life that sits next to me and hold me and tell me that everything is going to be ok. I want to be able to cry and use her sweater to save up my tears. We all want a special person in our life that finds a unique spot inside our hearts. We all want to share our feelings. Be grateful of the things we are able to feel; feelings are amazing. We have loved once and our hurting tells us that things were special. Be thankful and let time take care of it. Know that we have it good. We are not starving, we are healthy, we are not living a life full of insecurities about the future. Think about the wars, the earthquakes, floods killing all those people. Some will never have what we have. Some will never love. Some will live their life in abuse and disrespect. There is so much more. Don’t you think we are actually spoiled? That we are egocentric?
Author newguyhere Posted August 20, 2010 Author Posted August 20, 2010 Could you tell us more about your story? I met my ex back in August 2001 during college registration. We were both 18 at the time. I cant still remember the first words I ever said to her: "Here's a pen" LOL. She was behind me during registration and didnt have a pen We didnt really get to know each other during the first year. But on the second year we seemed to always end up next to each other during class or break. I had no iterest in her at the time and didnt think she was my type. I didnt think she was interesed in me either. There was two other guys in our class that had the same name as me, and I heard her introduce me as the "good-looking one" lol. That was the first time she showed any attraction to me. We graduated college in 2003 and went our seperate ways. I am from another town so I didnt think we would ever see each other again. Actually, that thought didnt even cross my mind because I was not interested in a relationship with her. About 5 months later that year, I was in another town looking for work when I got a phone call from one of my college instrucors about a job in the town I went to college. I went for the interview and got the job in Sept. 2003. Little did I know that the girls mother worked there also (and still does) A couple months later, the girl got a temporary position at my workplace and thats when I figured out that lady was her mother. Still no interest in her. Not my type. Spring 2004, we are begining to become good friends. I find out she has had a crush on me for a long time. I am single at this time, I like her and start to think maybe this "not my type" thing is a bunch of crap. She continued to work with me untill 2005 and our love grew. We were together for 5 year although we were not officially together as a couple for 4. Long story short, I got really sick in Feb 2007 untill early 2009. I was on powerful medication that is know to change personality. I was a complete jerk during this time and hurt our relationship. I am not the same person now that I am off the medication, but it still took untill early 2010 for my old self to come back. I had lost her in July 2009. I tried to get her back fall 2009. She would not talk to me or even acknowledge my existance. I lost my best friend. My lover. April 2010, she moved out of town for work, but it didnt work out. She quit her job in this town for the job out of town, so she came back jobless. Her mother got her a job back where I work. We are talking again, I told her in july that I still had feelings for her. She told me "never again". I was crushed again. Since then, we still talk when we meet at work, but I dont show any interest anymore. To see her within arms reach yet so far away is hard.
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