fearthepinkmist Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 One month NC and he texts me yesterday.. "I hope you are ok. Just thinking about ya." What the **** is that? I didn't respond. Number one because I know better number two because what the hell do you say to that?! Goddangit this just isn't freaking fair.
edgeofdarkness Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 can u block him on yr phone? I can block numbers its awesome i think it depends on provider... dont reply, i take it he dumped you, they always call, just to check they are still on your radar, its an ego thing.
Username37 Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Good for ignoring it. Doesn't mean ****. If they want friendship or reconciliation they should do a better ****ing job.
Nappeal Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 dont reply, i take it he dumped you, they always call, just to check they are still on your radar, its an ego thing. Agreed. If there was more to it, you'd get more than that. I think more often than not they may have had a long lingering memory of you. Now they want to 'check in', but @ the same time they know you're still going to always answer. Stay strong and don't answer.
carhill Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 What the **** is that?It's electrons. You know, those little nothings which fly around the universe getting sucked into black holes. Here's a good mind-f*ck. After the settlement conference today stbx and I are talking out in the parking lot and she moves to straighten out my shirt collar, like she used to do while we were married. LOL, this tells me that I left too much money on the table . The good news is she'll never text me....... unless she wants something. You'd love her. She'll never ask you how you're doing. It's great. Free my soul So, see how your Hoover likes black holes. Good luck!
Feelin Frisky Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Yep. It is the devil. The 11th Commandment s/b "thou shalt not texteth for it costeth forfeiture of thy soul".
Author fearthepinkmist Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 It's electrons. You know, those little nothings which fly around the universe getting sucked into black holes. Here's a good mind-f*ck. After the settlement conference today stbx and I are talking out in the parking lot and she moves to straighten out my shirt collar, like she used to do while we were married. LOL, this tells me that I left too much money on the table . The good news is she'll never text me....... unless she wants something. You'd love her. She'll never ask you how you're doing. It's great. Free my soul So, see how your Hoover likes black holes. Good luck! Your right I would like her. At least then I would know what she wanted and why she wanted it.. he is just being ridiculous and cruel. Its like he still wants me to think I have a chance when I know I freaking don't... ugh.
Author fearthepinkmist Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 Agreed. If there was more to it, you'd get more than that. I think more often than not they may have had a long lingering memory of you. Now they want to 'check in', but @ the same time they know you're still going to always answer. Stay strong and don't answer. Yeah it is like some cruel sick joke that he is playing on me it is ridiculous!!
Username37 Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Yep. It is the devil. The 11th Commandment s/b "thou shalt not texteth for it costeth forfeiture of thy soul". Actually the 11th Commandment is "Thou shall not cock block" haha
Author fearthepinkmist Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 Actually the 11th Commandment is "Thou shall not cock block" haha I think I shall use both of the. lol.
AlwaysConflicted Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 You could ignore it or you could respond with something like "Thanks, appreciate it." I kind of like that response because it's so brief and to the point. It's mature, kind, and you don't ask any questions back. It's all about you as it should be. However, if you're having trouble healing then stick to NC.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Actually the 11th Commandment is "Thou shall not cock block" haha Oh yeah. Thanks. But I think it is "cock blocketh". Nay?
Thorgs Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Good job on ignoring it. I can't stand when the dumpers become flaky after the do things that are so heartless.
LostInTurn Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 One month NC and he texts me yesterday.. "I hope you are ok. Just thinking about ya." What the **** is that? I didn't respond. Number one because I know better number two because what the hell do you say to that?! Goddangit this just isn't freaking fair. Block them! I'm an advocate! I'm weak, I block and unblock. So, today I requested he block me since he proclaims whatever BS he's throwing my way at the moment and I'm terrible.
LostInTurn Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 can u block him on yr phone? I can block numbers its awesome i think it depends on provider... dont reply, i take it he dumped you, they always call, just to check they are still on your radar, its an ego thing. I agree, ego. They don't hear from you, you contact them one week later. Or maybe you just stop contacting them. That's when the shi* storm will start in their mind. That drives a point home. No matter what their MO when they're 'checking in' or ignoring. The strongest medicine the dumpee can do is go complete NC. Once the day hits when the dumper would expect to hear and silence rings. That's when reality sets in. And it's a harsh reality for them.
Beeotch Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 (edited) Honestly....people need to stop sounding paranoid and insane. That is one thing I dislike about LS. All these theories about why your exes do what they do, making it seem like because you end a relationship you're the devil. STOP! Relationships end. That is life. We all have relationships that end for good reasons and we move forward. Not every relationship is going to last til you're 80! It is a learning lesson. YOU TOO may be the dumper one day....surprise! Someone HAS to do it. With that being said, it is UTTER BULL that just because your ex checks on you means they are trying to stroke their ego. Honestly, that is absurd. Sure, SOME people may be doing it for that reason. But not cuz you ended a relationship means you are Satan and out to ruin someone's life. It is QUITE plausible that you are a human being like the rest of us who cared for this person, but realized things wouldn't work out but you still give a shyt about whether or not the person is alive. How is that a crime? I know it is the bitterness talking...but still. If your ex doesn't say crap to you, you're mad cuz they "don't care", and if they do say stuff to you, you're mad cuz they're trying to stroke their ego (I don't mean you as a specific person, but you plural). What do you want? It is clearly your own hang up and not this person....... I mean eventually you may realize that, as I said in another thread, every single thing my ex did was wrong to me when we just broke up but now I see he is a human like all others, doing the best with what he knows, he cares about me and at the time when all you want to do is get back together you make this person out to be some terrorist because they're not giving you what you THINK you want. Anyway, I had to say that. I have seen it so much and it is really ridiculous. If you're still hurting, I do apologize but I don't think this place is good for healing if you don't have sensible people, who are gonna be impartial and truthful...which includes admitting "dumpers" are humans too and just because they ended your relationship does not mean they are a different species whose sole goal is to ruin your life and build theirs up. Edited August 20, 2010 by Beeotch
edgeofdarkness Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Honestly....people need to stop sounding paranoid and insane. its not paranoia or insane, people in pain need to move on and the dumper never gives reasons so telling yrself thst its an ego thing, which it is, is the best answer, bcos dumpers dont care about making up with u all they care about is not seeming the bad guy or gurl... That is one thing I dislike about LS. All these theories about why your exes do what they do, making it seem like because you end a relationship you're the devil. STOP!self-protection, u have to look at them this way, looking on them nicely makes u hurt more, how can anybody nice do this to u. Relationships end. That is life. We all have relationships that end for good reasons and we move forward. Not every relationship is going to last til you're 80! It is a learning lesson. yeh thats right u die i die we all die everybody dies, but whats wrong with wanting to die happy, the exdumper makes sure u wont do it with them even if u wanted to, it sux but even if its a hard lesson id rather learn it in somebodys arms than alone, yeah? YOU TOO may be the dumper one day....surprise! Someone HAS to do it. ok sure but guess what, here, we didnt. With that being said, it is UTTER BULL that just because your ex checks on you means they are trying to stroke their ego. no sorry not bull, may not be all the reason but its sure part of it Honestly, that is absurd. Sure, SOME people may be doing it for that reason. yeah, they do also because they are insensitive, why contact somebody healing and rip the wound open, if u dump someone dont ever contact them again, be kind and leave them alone theyre busy healing dont be so damn selfish!!!! But not cuz you ended a relationship means you are Satan and out to ruin someone's life. It is QUITE plausible that you are a humaneverybody is human silly, and everybody does bad things no denying it but there are ways of preventing collateral damage and one of them is to be humanE and leave them alone! being like the rest of us who cared for this person, but realized things wouldn't work out but you still give a shyt about whether or not the person is alive. How is that a crime?they know the person is alive but contacting them again for no reason other than, hi hows things? just makes them die more inside. I know it is the bitterness talking...but still. If your ex doesn't say crap to you, you're mad cuz they "don't care", and if they do say stuff to you, you're mad cuz they're trying to stroke their ego (I don't mean you as a specific person, but you plural). What do you want? It is clearly your own hang up and not this person....... I mean eventually you may realize that, as I said in another thread, every single thing my ex did was wrong to me when we just broke up but now I see he is a human like all others, yeh but it took u a while, yeah, ever stop to think people dont heal at the same rate, some people never get over it, and an ex contacting u is just wrong, if its just to pass the time of day, when your trying to live from moment to moment doing the best with what he knows, he cares about me and at the time when all you want to do is get back together you make this person out to be some terrorist because they're not giving you what you THINK you want.terrorist is a bit strong, but if your trying to mend a broken heart they dont help by calling u, u just want to be left alone it rips u apart. Anyway, I had to say that. I have seen it so much and it is really ridiculous. If you're still hurting, I do apologize but I don't think this place is good for healing if you don't have sensible people, who are gonna be impartial and truthful...which includes admitting "dumpers" are humans too and just because they ended your relationship does not mean they are a different species whose sole goal is to ruin your life and build theirs up. its easier to demonise people because it helps to buffer the pain maybe when they get over it like u theyll see it like u but just for now people need to do this, just let people heal the way they need to. and if people need to call the ex a jerk then thats the way it is, its a natural progression of emotions.
Shakz Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Well, I would answer him back with "So glad you called. Miss you." But then again, I'm a bid of a sadist.
edgeofdarkness Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 "I hope you are ok. Just thinking about ya." . Nah, if yr gonna answer it should be 'im doing better than ok, im not thinking bout u at all.'
Author fearthepinkmist Posted August 20, 2010 Author Posted August 20, 2010 I agree with you Beeotch... I know he is not out there just to ruin my life and he might not even meant to hurt but he did. And because he did when he messages me crap like that and I khnow he still cares but I can't be with him well that is pure freaking torture. That is kinda like saying hey here is a piece of cake it wants to be in your tummy but oh wait no... it can't be. It just isn't fair.. I just wish he would leave me alone so I could move on like he wants me to. I can't do that with him messaging me all the time and calling me showing me that he cares..
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