and.then.some Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 (edited) Thank you great input.... 1) He knows this because I opened his account for him last year. 2) If he would ever have deleted me, he would have last year when s**T hit the fan and he wanted nothing to do with me. 3) So perhaps he is trying to send a message to me or illicit a reaction? 4) Which is it? Has been checking my facebook? Or trying to get a reaction? Well, if he's not really into facebook, maybe he was just trying to get a reaction. Or, maybe some things that showed up in his news feeds were getting to him (though you can easily block status updates). I had an ex do that to me, but I was pretty okay with it. I thought it was a little childish, so I returned the favor by blocking him from my phone and FB LOL. (Really, I felt the friendship had played out anyway.) Shortly before he deleted me, he announced that he would be deleting people because he had too many friends. Before that, he used pictures of himself that I had taken of him while we were together as his profile pics (which reeeeally surprised me). Personally, I don't think it was because he was all "in love" with me, but I think it finally dawned on him that he really had no chance with me whatsoever, and that I had not a single bit of romantic interest in him. Too, I had restricted areas of my profile. I think it was more about his ego than any real "feelings" at that point. Honestly, I think the most important thing right now is how YOU feel and what YOU want. If it's not worth the risk of being involved with him again, then don't waste the mental energy on this. If you think it is worth the risk then break NC, and tell him honestly how you feel or whatever the case may be. Then, at least, you'll know for sure. Like a bandaid. Chances are though that he's just seeking attention, etc. If he's just looking for a reaction even, he's still only looking for attention. If all you want from this is an ego boost, then take it and run. Otherwise, from my experiences, they stop with the (attention seeking) games when they're serious and know what they want. (Ironic that I should say that LOL) Edited August 28, 2010 by and.then.some
Don Ho Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Have you guys even noticed that Paddy seems to be doing much better and has not even posted on here lately??
and.then.some Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Have you guys even noticed that Paddy seems to be doing much better and has not even posted on here lately?? Mmmm, yeah... most people don't read 6 pages of comments before the reply to the original question...
Meaplus3 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I'm telling ya.. the more I think about Facebook.. the more I see that site as just away to annoy others. Anway, so he deleted you. He is trying to tell you that he no longer wishes to be in touch. Block him.. and move past this. It may be tough.. but you can do it. Mea:)
Haunt Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 i couldnt get through all posts in this threat, but i even registered to LS just to tell you guys: i did kick out my ex (who dumped me) on FB, too. but not to get rid of her. i just couldnt take it anymore to see who she posts what, who she adds and stuff. felt a lot better afterwards. basicly i was going into NC and not to unwillingly stalk her on FB anymore. she was even pissed that i did so, got me some revengepoints and even a nice chat with her. but i wouldnt say the guy in this story did it for the same reason. just wanted to point out that there is a possibility that there is someone on the other side doing NC too! And maybe wanting someone back with this "technique", like we all learn to do in this forum.
coltsfan1 Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 here is my experience, when my ex left me I asked here to delete our pics together and remove me as a friend. she did neither and just blocked me, all the pics I was tagged in still came up on my tagged page and I couldn't see her page or find her. but i could see her old posts on my page. Why did i ask her to do this? cause if she wanted out then leave, in your case you know him! he might be trying to get a rise out of you and he might be waiting for you to contact him, you won't know unless you talk to him. However if you take that risk whatever you have gained will be lost! Just my opinion!!
tobydog Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Mine has gone for good and deleted me too and changed status to separated, then 2 days later to It's complicated. After I asked him it went back to separated. Why, Goodness only knows, I have stopped thinking about it tho it gave me a few days of grief. Now my son has just killed his hamster, another kick and I am seriously at the end of my tether...........
SunsetRed Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 He may be trying to get a reaction from you. Whatever you do, don't ask him why he deleted you. Act like you don't care. I once had an ex who only had 8 friends on FB. Sometimes he would post status updates implying he was with some other woman and I knew his updates were directed at me, as with only 8 friends, who else could they be directed to. It's sad when adults act so middle schoolish.
whichwayisup Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I went strict NC after I went home over Easter and he initially wanted to make it work, but then run back to his rebound chick and was complaining about my phone calls. I later found out they broke up in July and he was hanging out with another chick. This again did not work out. However today he deleted me on facebook, I am shocked and very distraught and can't help but keep wondering why? He's your ex, you two broke up, you went strict NC with him. So, he deleted you off of facebook. I'm sure it hurts but if you are in NC mode with him, then why have him on your facebook? To check up on him? Find out what is going on in his life? Best to let it go and move on. He's moved on, so it seems..
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