iamsoconfused1 Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 My girlfriend and I (both 18 years old) split up a few days ago and I don't understand her reasoning completely. My ex-girlfriend and I had been together for about 2.5 months at this point. She was a great friend in high school, but I always pictured her as something more. Over the summer I asked her to be my girlfriend, and she was more than willing to accept. She was the girl of my dreams, and I didn't want to rush things by having sex with her as soon as we were together. We progressed slowly. She was my first girlfriend and my first kiss. The extent of our sexual relationship was touching each other...but it wasn't a common thing. Only twice in the 2.5 months actually. We made out a lot, but that's about it. She broke up with me a few days ago. Her general reasoning was she didn't want to ruin what we had if she did something bad in college. I trust her completely, and she trusts me. We always said we would be fine in college, and the distance would strengthen our relationship, since we would cherish the smaller amount of time we saw each other. She went on vacation last week, which is when she thought about our relationship. She also said that she used to love when we made out and "hooked up", and it made her feel fully enveloped. But for some reason, after that vacation, her drive was gone. It doesn't make any sense to me, since we never even really "hooked up". I wanted her to be my first, regardless of how far into the relationship we were. She said she wasn't quite ready, and I was willing to wait for her. It's only been three days, but she's all I can think about, and I want to get her back in whatever way possible. She is the perfect girl for me, and I'd do anything for her.
USMCHokie Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 You're 18...and about to go off to college...your experience there will be, depending on what you make of it, a million times better than what you have now...you're MUCH better off going to college single...and I think she realizes that and wants to experience college for all it is without having to worry about you...and besides, you've only been dating for a couple months...that's nothing...you have no idea what the "perfect girl" is...no idea... So don't go chasing her...let her go...you'll be thankful you moved on and are free from her when you go off to college this year...
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