Do I have a problem

[Ihavenoideer]

My girlfriend and I have been together for bout 9yrs now. We have a great relationship, the only thing we argue about is money problems, but I'm sure that is every relationship. I can count the amount of times we have actually yelled at each other on one hand. We always talk sometimes one gets a little attitude, but it is always apologized for.

 

Marriage has been brought up and we do see it in our future, but we want to be able to pay for it our self. We don't have any kids, she wants them, I'm scared to hell of course, but do not shun the idea. I'm 29 she is 25, I know that made us 20 and 16, but before you call me a cradle robber, we actually met at 18 and 14 we didn't know one and others ages for a few weeks. We just hung out with the same friends here and there and talked and flirted. She told me she had a boyfriend and then she told me her age. For 2 yrs. we stayed friends, really good friends, she became part of our group and hung out every day, any ways rambling sorry... The just of it is we hung out for the next 2 years and became best friends. Her mother/family liked me and saw us together almost every day and knew how we felt. I became part of the family and she hinted to us both that she was ok with us being together . We dated for one and a half years and then got sexual. She told me she had 2 sexual experiences during the 2yrs we were friends, and says they do not matter or bother her, nor does it bother me

 

The sex has been good, she gets wore out doing the work during 97% of the time she starts off on top and I have to take over, I don't have a problem with this, I love to please her sexually may it be oral, anal or finger stimulation. The only other performance issue I have is her giving head, it really doesn't bother me either because it does feel good, just never good enough or long enough to make me cum, she has Asthma so I don't blame the duration on her and I really don't have a problem with it, because the sex is good and I always reach climax

 

The problem is I think I have a sex addiction problem, you hear about this all the time with movie stars and what not. Women are beautiful, I've never cheated on my girlfriend, never. I have thought about it, I have had chances to do so, but I love her, I do not want to lose her. I've talked about FFM threesomes with her, and she has told me that she wants to experience it at least once. But, not untill after we have a child. But like I said women are beautiful, I have sex with my old lady probably an average of 4 nights a week and if we don't I masturbate. It isn't like I see a women and start to drool or I get an erection, but sex with them is one of the first 3 things that goes through my mind depending on the situation. And it's really not about pleasing me, I just want to please them, well.... I guess it still pleases me

 

I'm in control of my actions I'm not having thoughts of violence or forcing anyone to do anything. Plenty of feeling the need to flirt. It is kind of like the feeling of being a teenager again and the need to try and mate with everything. But I also don't want to lose my girlfriend at the same time so all these feelings have just been that. But my sexual need takes a toll on my girlfriend, she is tired, wore out, sometimes raw from the last 3 or 4 nights of sex, we even split it up putting a day in between our activities.

 

Is this a problem. Do I have a sexual addiction problem? If anyone has advice or can answer me, I think I need the help.

 

I posted this in dating as well, but i wasn't sure that was the right place for it so am posting it here as well.

Thanks for your time

[SincereOnlineGuy]

No, you're probably just normal.

 

She should take some comfort from the fact that you've been together so long and you are still rarin' to go at her.

 

 

Of course it is also very fair, and somewhat common, that sex drives in two partners are considerably different, and then compromises have to be worked out.