xx.Kael.xx Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 So its been straight NC for a little over a month, & I was beginning to believe I was over it...well , lastnight on break - yep, you guessed it...she sent me 2 messages on Facebook. I don't know what it means. Maybe I'm insane, I know I'm still in love...but I know the right thing is to let go. F*** I didn't want to reply, but I gave in...I can't fight this. Her: Hey, how are you?...erm you don't have to reply, I'm just seeing how you are. Her #2 : Wait, I shouldn't have sent you that....I'm sorry....have a good life ( yeah, I know right then I shouldn't have replied) Me: I'm great you? Her: I'm doing really good how are things? Me: Everythings perfect thanks. I even checked her fb....no new guys as far as I know...idk, it sent me back to hell...I haven't received her reply yet, but I know this day will drag on. F*** I was even supposed to party with some new girls this weekend....thanks for the heartbreak babe. Thanks, a lot. But why would she send the 2nd msg? Help..
cookie2 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Why have you not blocked her on FB? Not sure what you're asking here. You seem to know the answers already. She wanted attention, and you gave it to her. Next time, ignore!! And block her!!!
Username37 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 So its been straight NC for a little over a month, & I was beginning to believe I was over it...well , lastnight on break - yep, you guessed it...she sent me 2 messages on Facebook. I don't know what it means. Maybe I'm insane, I know I'm still in love...but I know the right thing is to let go. F*** I didn't want to reply, but I gave in...I can't fight this. Her: Hey, how are you?...erm you don't have to reply, I'm just seeing how you are. Her #2 : Wait, I shouldn't have sent you that....I'm sorry....have a good life ( yeah, I know right then I shouldn't have replied) Me: I'm great you? Her: I'm doing really good how are things? Me: Everythings perfect thanks. I even checked her fb....no new guys as far as I know...idk, it sent me back to hell...I haven't received her reply yet, but I know this day will drag on. F*** I was even supposed to party with some new girls this weekend....thanks for the heartbreak babe. Thanks, a lot. But why would she send the 2nd msg? Help.. Okay, I was in the same seat as you bud. My ex fb chatted me 4 times during my first NC run. She always ended it early and sent me weird responses. And her excuse was to "check up on me" She also found ways just to talk to me. Like she thought I died in a car crash one (WTF?!) I should've kept NC going. But at the time, I thought NC was stupid and I didn't want to ignore her. Boy do I feel stupid now haha And dude, don't check her FB. I did that, and once she started befriend like...50 guys. It will bring you back man. Save yourself the pain, because once you see ONE guy. You'll wonder "is she hooking up with him?" or some crazy stuff like that. Ignore and block man.
boosh Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Facebook is a ****ing spawn of Satan when it comes to dealing with an ex. Seriously. I can't bring myself to delete her from FB, because even though we decided to not speak to each other for a few months last time we spoke, it wasn't because we were mad, etc. We both realized we needed time to ourselves to heal. Time to ourselves to figure life out without one another, and see where it goes from there. Facebook however, makes that near impossible. Everytime I see her sign on FB chat I click her name. I never type or send anything, but it still kills me to do just that. I'll end up on her profile every now and then doing the general snooping, and even though nothing's changed it seems, it still hurts a lot, just seeing her face. The worst however, was those ads on the sides promoting friend finder and showing you 2 of your friends that used it to find FB friends. She always pops up on there. To make stuff even more awkward, she popped up on there the other day with my previous ex as the other name, I hit refresh to get that off my screen, and she popped up AGAIN, only this time with a girl I hooked up with a few times after the break up occurred, talk about a rush of emotions and confusion. Facebook is awful and I hate it.
HopeLove Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 If you really want to go NC, delete her from fb. Fb is no exception. It was really hard for me to delete him but now I'm glad I did. The funny thing is that two friends I told I delete him asked why did I do it, I could just bloked him. The main reason I've done it is because I prefered to be the first one doing it and hey, he dumped me, that is much more worse than deleting him from fb.
edgeofdarkness Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Facebook is a ****ing spawn of Satan when it comes to dealing with an ex. Seriously. I can't bring myself to delete her from FB,well thats your problem, dont blame the gun if if fires your the one pulling the trigger Facebook however, makes that near impossible.no it doesnt u make it impossible. just delete her off fb and change yr password to something u will not remember. done. easy, why do this to yrself, yr crazy. Everytime I see her sign on FB chat I click her name. I never type or send anything, but it still kills me to do just that. ...... Facebook is awful and I hate it. Once u realise that Fb is just fine does nothing and isnt to blame for anything, u are, then it will be better for christs sake man stop being pulpmush and just delete it!!!!!!!!!! or carry on as you r. how is that working for u btw??
howtoloveagain Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I'll tell you why she did that...she obviously misses you. Perhaps not enough to want to get back with you, but nevertheless she is thinking of you. She sent the 2nd msg to make it seem like she "made a mistake", but she did this because she wants to make it seem like she doesn't miss you. It can also be because she may not want to give you the wrong idea, but know that she still cares about you. Don't get any crazy ideas now of taking this as a sign to go knocking on her door, begging her to take you back...But relish the fact that you got to experience the feeling of love. It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.
D-Lish Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 So basically you gave up ANY power you had at all by responding. Why do guys not learn that when dealing with a bitch that it's best to remain aloof? No one ever truly gets that.
silic0ntoad Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 So basically you gave up ANY power you had at all by responding. Why do guys not learn that when dealing with a bitch that it's best to remain aloof? No one ever truly gets that. The past makes the present hard to deal with, D-lish. Most men will see the great times and think "Hey, maybe we've got a chance." No, not really. I'd never respond to someone who walked out of my life. It's like, PEACE guy, I don't need you round anyhow. Most people have a hard time wrapping their head around the fact that this is life, not the ****ing real world, where their "true love" will come riding to their rescue even after a nasty breakup... Any contact from the dumper only works to verify this feeling.
skydiveaddict Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I agree w/ d-Lish. Why are you even responding? Why haven't you blocked her? So you can see a pic of her w/her new bf? What good will that do you? Find you own friends, find new hobbies (jumping out of airplanes is a good one) leave her in the dust where she belongs
skydiveaddict Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 So basically you gave up ANY power you had at all by responding. Why do guys not learn that when dealing with a bitch that it's best to remain aloof? No one ever truly gets that. It took me a while, but I get it, finally
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