tealeaf Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 (edited) Hi, I met this guy abroad. Immediately I thought he was a player. My parents are building a house out there, and it is a third world country. He works in a hire shop. Seeing him a second time I asked if he knew where I could get car seat covers. Third visit, his work mate told him you're friend's outside. I thought this strange as I had hardly spoken to the guy. We got chatting and he was complimenting me and asked for my contact details. We had to rush off so I didn't get a chance to exchange numbers. He visited our house with some building materials, and asked me to come to the store to give him my details. A week later, I was still deliberating as to whether I should, as a lot of guys were constantly coming up to us and telling us that they were in love with us, which was totally insane! A lot of them just wanted a ticket to the UK. I assumed he was just the same. I asked him to come to a house blessing which he did not attend as he said he was too tired. I did not bother to go and see him the next day, as I was so angry. It turns out he was trying to ring me to tell me he couldn't come, but I didn't hear my phone ringing. The day I was due to fly back to the UK he told me that he thought I would have popped by before, and I gave him my contacts in a card. He told my sister to take to the jeep back to the house and leave me there with him, she didn't and as he hugged me goodbye, he asked when I was coming back. I said January, but haven't been back since. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about him. He rang me to ask me if I arrived back safely. I texted back and said that I wished I could have kissed him goodbye, but didn't want to appear to be too forward. He replied saying he got my message and that was it. No response to the text. I texted back a million questions asking about him, what he liked etc. He texted me back saying that if he wanted to get into his world I had to understand that he had a girlfriend over there. I was literally heartbroken. I told him this, and said that I respected the fact that he had a girlfriend and wanted no further contact with him. He kept on texting me and saying that if I lost contact with him, he would come to the UK. I sent him a cruel to be kind text saying that I thought he just wanted to use me for sex and a ticket to England. I haven't heard from him since. I really miss him, so much it hurts. He told me that he didn't have to tell me he had a girlfriend and that he could have led me on for months. Why would he say that if he didn't care about me, and if he did want to come to the UK, why didn't he keep in touch with me? I'd give anything to have him contact me again. I have sent Xmas, Valentine cards, texts saying how sorry I am, and still he won't contact me. I even told him that I would ring him at a certain time and it said that this phone cannot be reached at present, try again later. I tried again later and it rang and I hung up, I assumed he did not want to talk to me. I have been constantly hitting his profile online, and it said that he was in a committed relationship, a few months later, it said that he was not. His interests include bikes and cars, and he thought I liked cars too. He put a link on cars recently, but when I sent him an email saying that he looks at bikes the way a guy looks at me, and that he loves bikes and I love cakes, he removed the link. Is he just playing a game with me? Does he still like me? Will he ever contact me again? It's been 9 months now and I still can't forget him. I have fallen in love with him. I fell in love at first sight. :(Please help. I feel like I am going insane! Edited August 18, 2010 by tealeaf
lala82 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 I think that you are wasting your time. You care a lot about him, but he does not response in the same way. It is not nice they way he behaves with you. To be honest I think that you should stop contact him. Do not ask him why he is acting like that. Just carry on with your life. Do not bother too much if he wants to go or not to the UK. I am sure you will fine someone who really loves you and appreciates you as woman.
Author tealeaf Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 Hi. Thanks. I knew the answer, I was just living in that river called 'denial'. I just refused to believe that he didn't care about me. I know I have to accept this.
edgeofdarkness Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 with all the great blokes single and available in your own country your thinking about an unavailable one in a third world one. good prospects. not. Give up. live your life where you are, dont waste it in another place where your not.
Author tealeaf Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 Hi, Trust me. If I could find a great single bloke in this country, I would. All I seem to get are men who are either married or have a girlfriend who end up telling me about it six weeks later. It is not about the country, it is about the person. I felt an instant connection with this guy, granted I was wrong. Miss Wrong. Still looking for Mr Right.
lala82 Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 To be honest I do not think that the guy from the third world is the best prospectus for you. You said that the majority of men you have met are married or have a girlfriend. I think he is not different from the other men you have met. In fact, all of them have a similar factor that they are not single. I think that you need to chill out a little bit. I am sure you will find a fantastic guy, who will be available only for you.
RickG Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 tealeaf, I was reading your story and the answer's that people have sent you and I think they are right! You should just move on. You seem like a very sweet and loving woman but I have always been told that when you think you know someone, you really don't. You have no clue what that guy had in store for you and if he really wanted to be with you he would not done what he done, he would have removed his self from any other engagements and pursued you! THAT MAN YOU’RE SEEKING IS OUT THERE SOMEWHERE! It may or may not be in the UK but true love has no boundaries. Don't be so hard on yourself the right man will come! You’re beautiful just got to wait for the right one! good luck to you! Hi, Trust me. If I could find a great single bloke in this country, I would. All I seem to get are men who are either married or have a girlfriend who end up telling me about it six weeks later. It is not about the country, it is about the person. I felt an instant connection with this guy, granted I was wrong. Miss Wrong. Still looking for Mr Right.
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