Billie The Puppet Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I as well am having trouble with NC but not on my half, I can't help but answer her contacts which now have dwindled to once in a awhile: My Story is here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t244144/
Author Gironbachs Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 been maintaining NC for almost 3 weeks and (this is gonna sound lame) but today she posts a link on my FB wall (about a band she knows I like) Is this considered breaking NC on her part? Is she trying to reach out? is this a test? I know it sounds trivial, but I wanna know what others think or may have experienced?
Silvaria Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 been maintaining NC for almost 3 weeks and (this is gonna sound lame) but today she posts a link on my FB wall (about a band she knows I like) Is this considered breaking NC on her part? Is she trying to reach out? is this a test? I know it sounds trivial, but I wanna know what others think or may have experienced?It may seem trivial to others, but obviously it isn't to YOU, and that's what counts. IMO, yes, she is breaking NC by posting the link. A lot of people here will tell you to maintain NC despite this...but my question is, what do YOU think you should do? Are you inclined to respond somehow, or do you think continuing NC is best?
Don Ho Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 been maintaining NC for almost 3 weeks and (this is gonna sound lame) but today she posts a link on my FB wall (about a band she knows I like) Is this considered breaking NC on her part? Is she trying to reach out? is this a test? I know it sounds trivial, but I wanna know what others think or may have experienced? Good work on the NC Bro. Do not read into the post and do not initiate contact. If she wants to contact you, she will.
hopesndreams Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 6 days of NC. As much as I hate to admit it, I'm in agony. I guess I'm waiting around for her to crack, as she has in the past - but part of me is worried she'll resist and push through it until I don't mean anything to her anymore. I know this is unhealthy. I really miss her so bad, and at this point have a hard time seeing her negative qualities and her part in turning this relationship sour. As long as there is someone new in her life to turn her crank, you stand no chance. You could wait until it fizzles out and she comes knocking, but what would you have then eh? You need to start looking at yourself as a back-up plan. What does that do to your self-esteem and self-respect? It will destroy you. Go NC. Completely. Unless she comes knocking at your door, for real, and begs you to give things another go, anything else is just an ego feed for her.
Author Gironbachs Posted September 29, 2010 Author Posted September 29, 2010 after a month of no contact, intitated by me - saying I couldn't handle the odd hookup and wanted all or nothing (she agreed) the ex starts posting cryptic facebook status updates - inside jokes that only us two know about. What is that about? A head game? Does she miss me and is this a passive attempt to get me to re-initiate contact? Is she just lonesome and wants attention? Should I ignore it?
PegNosePete Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Yep head game, ignore it. You told her you wanted all or nothing. Until she gives you "all", accept nothing.
Cuchara2 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Meeeh I've started NC since the weekend and I already feel like ass. You're inspirational to me
Hurtgal100 Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 I started NC 3 days ago & Im feeling everything you did/are.. Your definitely inspirational & keep going, you've done sooooo well!!! I certainly hope it works for you - Im still at the stage of WHY & HOW but Im leaving it to him to initiate!
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