Vivid_29 Posted February 29, 2004 Posted February 29, 2004 Yes it can. An ex and I were split up for 10 years and we got back together! ~V
Arabess Posted February 29, 2004 Posted February 29, 2004 Only once did I attempt a 'do-over' and I sure wish I hadn't. The same problem which messed it up in the first place......messed it up again. However, I DO think people, depending on the dynamics of the relationship, can work things out and reunite. The trick is....knowing if your relationship is one of THOSE or you are just beating a dead horse.
monkey Posted February 29, 2004 Posted February 29, 2004 Mandrews was right, anyone thats experienced a bad reconciliation will say just that as advice, it's true what he said, Arabess says pessemistic things, so does Moimeme & as for Tony, well i expect he was crucified by his s/o. Can't anyone be diplomatic about this! I spoke to someone on here & they were seperated & she publicly went out with other men in front of him to show it was over, what about that, now, guess what, they're more in love than ever & are getting married in the Bahamas in 3 weeks. Long live optimism, whatever!!
fishman3226 Posted February 29, 2004 Posted February 29, 2004 I got a funny situation - my ex who said "no contact for a month" is coming over today and I know she was looking at photos of me today she has saved (a frend of hers told me) and there was talk of a 'date' on Sat night. I aint holding my breath, but I think to myslef that the game that I am involved in aint over yet at all. I love this girl and I know she still has feelings. I am not taking her straight back, but I going to have a go.
broken54 Posted March 1, 2004 Posted March 1, 2004 My ex and I dated for 7 months. We met at work and still work together. She also experiences depression. She dumped me for an ex who repeatedly cheated on her. She constantly spoke of how she could not believe how stupid she was to have gone out with him in the past. They dated for three years. He is a creep and has nothing going for him in his life. I on the other hand have a very successful career and treated her extremely well. She spoke to a friend of mine about marrying me and said that "I was the best thing to ever happen to her." One day she told me that she loved me and the next ends the relationship and says she doesn't love me. She recently heard of me going on a date with someone else and interrogated my friend about it. What does this mean? She ended it. I constantly get weird looks from her at work and cannot figure out what she wants from me. Does she somewhat want me back or is she just confused? I care for her deeply and want the best for her. The guy she is dating is no good for her and from word of mouth I heard he is still seeing his ex. I don't know what I should do. I wish she would see it for herself but it still hurts me to see her screw up her life by being with him. Any advice?
Author Miss_Prolixity Posted March 1, 2004 Author Posted March 1, 2004 Hi Broken, Isn't it extremely odd how someone stays in an abusive relationship, but dumps the one who defines what a healthy relationship is all about? I am not sure why your ex would want to remain in a relationship where she was cheated on and treated harshly. But I am assuming it has something to do with her lack of self esteem and insecurity. If she were confident and loved herself, she wouldn't allow someone to take advantage of her and she would demand respect. Maybe she felt like you were too good to be true? Perhaps, it's easier to let go of someone who feels so right than wrong, because "fairytales" (healthy) relationships don't last. They're just a figment of our imagination. So to her, it's easier to deal with abuse than being loved. Doesn't make sense, does it? But it's been proven time and time again. I can't put words in her mouth, but I will say this. If you truly had a healthy relationship and you treated her well, I guarantee she has feelings for you. Who wouldn't? After all, being treated with respect and being loved is something that isn't easily forgotten. Maybe when she starts to love herself and realizes she deserves respect, she will allow it to come back into her life.
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