guccichick Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 My soon-to-be ex husband and I have a 7 year old. In April, my husband just left. He moved out, and moved in with another female. Since then I have found someone too. My child is taking this hard. Cries alot, asks alot of questions like "why cant daddy come back?" How do i make this easier for my child?
candymoon Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Sorry your son is taking it hard. How often is he seeing his dad? Does his father live close by? Can he/does he speak to his father daily? If he cant in person, set up dates with his dad for time to chat online even, using webcams and mics. When I am very long distance from my daughter for work travel for a week at a time this is how we communicate. Perhaps this could work in divorce instances also when one of the parents is not in person as often. Also, is your son in daycare or school now? Maybe one parent gives him breakfast and takes to school, and the other picks him up and feeds him dinner. When your son is with one parent and wants to speak to the other, let him do so freely. There are plenty of options for co-parenting where the child does not have to miss the other parent for any extended amount of time.
fooled once Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 My soon-to-be ex husband and I have a 7 year old. In April, my husband just left. He moved out, and moved in with another female. Since then I have found someone too. My child is taking this hard. Cries alot, asks alot of questions like "why cant daddy come back?" How do i make this easier for my child? My advice? You and your ex need to step back and let your child grieve. Both you and he have quickly gotten into new relationships. I hope both of you are shielding your child from this. A 7 year old cannot process all this this quickly. Spend quality 1-1 time with your son; encourage your ex to do that also. Remind your son how much he is loved. Good luck.
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