strawberry11 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Sadly, I still care about my ex. I havent spoken to him in months and have only seen him around the neighborhood once or twice. Depending on who hes with he will either completely ignore me or say hi (he'll only say hello when he's by himself). We had a horrible breakup about a year ago (him dumping me for someone else which it didnt turn out). then us being friends again to not talking again which is the current situation and has been for the past 3 or 4 months. Everything is fine except for the fact that we have the same friends. We know one another is there yet, we dont see each other, EVER. The last time we talked, Dave (my ex) told (more like screamed at me) that I was a bad person and he never wanted to speak to me ever again. He called me every awful name in the book and said things that were simply unforgivable...all b/c I tried talking to him about how I felt like we werent really friends this time around. We would hang out and then he would say crappy things about me behind my back (I did nothing to deserve the treatment I received but its beside the point). I respected his wishes and have left him alone since. A mutual friend of ours just recently told me that a new girl at the place they all work was surprised to hear that we werent on good terms since whenever she works with Dave, he cannot stop talking about me. She even went as far to say that she thought he was still in love with me. YET, Dave has made it clear to all my friends that he cannot "see me" or be in my presence. This has even gone so far as some of my friends texting me while theyre with him to be sure Im not at a place theyre going so he doesnt have to run into me. This is still happening, months later. I dont get it. We broke up a year ago!!! It almost seems like more trouble than to just see me and ignore me. I dont understand. Esp, when I hear he still cares. Help guys, what does this mean?! I miss him even though hes been awful to me, but there is no way I would ever reach out to him again. Do you think there is a sliver of hope he will eventually try to talk to me as friends again? I just miss my best friend but his behavior is totally odd and confusing. Any advice appreciated
Iselia Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Sadly, I still care about my ex. I havent spoken to him in months and have only seen him around the neighborhood once or twice. Depending on who hes with he will either completely ignore me or say hi (he'll only say hello when he's by himself). We had a horrible breakup about a year ago (him dumping me for someone else which it didnt turn out). then us being friends again to not talking again which is the current situation and has been for the past 3 or 4 months. Everything is fine except for the fact that we have the same friends. We know one another is there yet, we dont see each other, EVER. The last time we talked, Dave (my ex) told (more like screamed at me) that I was a bad person and he never wanted to speak to me ever again. He called me every awful name in the book and said things that were simply unforgivable...all b/c I tried talking to him about how I felt like we werent really friends this time around. We would hang out and then he would say crappy things about me behind my back (I did nothing to deserve the treatment I received but its beside the point). I respected his wishes and have left him alone since. A mutual friend of ours just recently told me that a new girl at the place they all work was surprised to hear that we werent on good terms since whenever she works with Dave, he cannot stop talking about me. She even went as far to say that she thought he was still in love with me. YET, Dave has made it clear to all my friends that he cannot "see me" or be in my presence. This has even gone so far as some of my friends texting me while theyre with him to be sure Im not at a place theyre going so he doesnt have to run into me. This is still happening, months later. I dont get it. We broke up a year ago!!! It almost seems like more trouble than to just see me and ignore me. I dont understand. Esp, when I hear he still cares. Help guys, what does this mean?! I miss him even though hes been awful to me, but there is no way I would ever reach out to him again. Do you think there is a sliver of hope he will eventually try to talk to me as friends again? I just miss my best friend but his behavior is totally odd and confusing. Any advice appreciated He's very confused. Honestly, it sounds like he has his own demons/issues to work out. You cannot help him; he needs to work things out for himself. Seriously, anything you say/do won't change his mind or really affect him. You just need to do NC and let him sort out his own crap. If he eventually sorts he out he'll either come back to you or move on to someone else.
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